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just_deborah2002
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02 Oct 2007, 9:23 am

Little did I know my hubby was an aspie, but turns out he has a label to his differences. Anyone out there with any advice on how to deal with an ongoing romantic life with an aspie? Just a side note, I wouldnt change him for the world, but would love to hear any tips on how to make our life more gentle and content for both of us.



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02 Oct 2007, 11:57 am

You need to provide more information about your relationship/difficulties/experiences. I don't understand the question, but I want to.



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05 Oct 2007, 2:09 pm

Yeah. . . I mean, you don't want to fix him, that's great. What do you want to fix?


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05 Oct 2007, 4:38 pm

Well, here's the good news first. Your husband is someone who will be:

1) Reliable
2) Honest
3) Punctual
4) Faithful
5) And he will probably even know how to program your VCR :D

I know all this because this is what my girlfriend said about me when I asked a similar question a few weeks ago. There is however some bad news:

1) Surprises, even nice surprises probably won't go down all that well. Aspies LOVE routine and anything that disrupts this will probably not be welcome.

2) His diet may be restricted to a group of foods and he might eat them on a regular basis for evermore.

3) There may be one or two social problems when it comes to parties and groups, but you can help here. Arrange a set of signals between you so that if he does something which might be considered outside the 'social norm' you can let him know. My signal is the girlfriend asking if I want a tissue, that sort of thing.

You've probably got the better end of a deal and relationships with aspies CAN work. I'm not married but I've now been in the same relationship for seven years.

Ed Almos



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06 Oct 2007, 7:49 pm

edal wrote:
Well, here's the good news first. Your husband is someone who will be:

1) Reliable
2) Honest
3) Punctual
4) Faithful
5) And he will probably even know how to program your VCR :D

I know all this because this is what my girlfriend said about me when I asked a similar question a few weeks ago. There is however some bad news:

1) Surprises, even nice surprises probably won't go down all that well. Aspies LOVE routine and anything that disrupts this will probably not be welcome.

2) His diet may be restricted to a group of foods and he might eat them on a regular basis for evermore.

3) There may be one or two social problems when it comes to parties and groups, but you can help here. Arrange a set of signals between you so that if he does something which might be considered outside the 'social norm' you can let him know. My signal is the girlfriend asking if I want a tissue, that sort of thing.

You've probably got the better end of a deal and relationships with aspies CAN work. I'm not married but I've now been in the same relationship for seven years.

Ed Almos



Sadly, I can't agree with this. Reliable, honest, faithful, and punctual are attributes that I can only attribute to some of the Aspies I know.

I'm glad your experience has been so consistently positive though. :)


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06 Oct 2007, 8:58 pm

just_deborah2002 wrote:
Anyone out there with any advice on how to deal with an ongoing romantic life with an aspie?


I like to smell things, aspies love smells, i smell everything.
What you want to do is; when he is asleep and you are feeling turned on; stick your finger up your c**t and then smear it on the top of his lip. Give him a little slap around just to wake him up, then he will smell that lovely pussie juice and will become like an uncontrollable animal sex machine.
That's what my ex-wife used to do, i never knew until years later, but we had some good nights.
Enjoy :P


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