what do you do when someone approaches you?

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It's never happened, so I don't know

Just sitting and reading a book or studying the fractals of sea birds flight and get disturbed by a beautiful woman that suddenly appears is at least for me a very disturbing thing.

It's also disturbing because it seems that I am that kind of person that have some manner with the oposite sex I've never understood what it is, and i'm NOT INTERESTED in any new relationship, the only woman I live for is the mother of my three childrens. But in the past three weeks, I've been having three different women affairs, none of interest, and all three of them knows that they're not alone and I can't figure out what they think of.

In highschool I thought I was übernerd #1 and didn't expect even to loose virginity ever. Later it was me loosing virginity with the love of a lifetime before anybody in my class. Weird thing was that I without knowing how, managed to satisfy her....

Perhaps a woman can explain this for me. My ex think's its because I always tell the truth no matter how weird it is. I simply can't lie. So I end up with women with kids, spoiled relations, and I'm frank and tell them that I love another woman, who's the mother of my three kids, but I don't love her enough nowadays to share her bed. But i still love her.

I'm 37 myself and the women I tend to attract, myself looking as something the cat have dragged in, is anywhere between 20 and 49 years. This has been very obvious also in my career that even though I've quitted my employment to be able to be there for my kids, a lot of my old customers still prefere to call me to solve issues with the systems. It's three years since I left my work and I still get almost a full time schedule with my ex customers!

Again, as my ex states, I can't lie and always position myself in the customer position and completely forgets everything else. I am working not only WITH the client, I also do what's BENEFICIAL for them.

I'd love to see a AS womans comment on this!

This used to happen to me when I was younger,

I find the best thing to do is to start dribbling, rock your head violently back and forth whilst making insane monkey noises,

This usually works in getting rid of them quickly.

oh i dont know but its never trying to be someone im not,

I don't get that very often, but when it happens I get very nervous. I remember last time it happened when I was in college. I was eating my lunch and minding my own business and a girl came by and asked if she could sit at my table. I said ok. God knows why I said that. I was looking off to the side to avoid making eye contact with her. Then she mentioned how the weather was nice and I said yeah. I kept staring off to the side not saying anything and feeling panicky. Then eventually she left. I didn't know what she wanted. Friendship? Conversation? Was she waiting for someone? It's always awkward and nerve wracking having a random stranger come up to you. That's probably why I don't do it myself to other people.

I would say "hi" and talk to her. I'd be polite.

I have had this happen to me only last week...

I was sitting in the cafeteria at my course by myself eating my lunch and reading a book.
There were 3 people at the table next to me, one of them came up to me and said..."Hi, are you ok?".
My reply..."Yes, why wouldn't I be?".
Her response..."You look lonely,".

I didn't say anything after that so she left me alone. I find that if I just don't answer then people will gather that I don't want to talk and just left alone.