showing someone you care....

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i have a hard time with this...and i do care about people and what is happening good/bad.
but i just have a hard time showing that i do....
it goes in how i react....i avoid them, or/and talk about them with other people or in my journal....
i do care...
it is just that i don't have the right instiction wired into me on how to react properly...

anyone else with this problem?

Yeah. . .

It used to be worse, before I studdied social interaction a lot.

Such gestures, though, for me always have to be intentional, and I tend to sort of miss these things at times as well. Happily, I'm socially articulate enough to usually regain my feet. . .

I think learning empathy and sympathy is the key in showing someone you care.

Tim

Yeah..i find it difficult.
One shoddy mechanism that I use because I can't express it in more conventional ways very well is that I give people stuff....Then again...I am just as prone to compulsively give people stuff when I don't really care that much...oh well....

This just made me realize, I recently got a GF, and have yet to tell her I even love her, all we do is stuff I like and I know Im caring of her and all, just dont know how to show it, or even say it...

Oh hell yes, and it bugs me to no end. It also bugs the people around me. Even if I try to tell someone how I feel about them, it ends up a muddled jumble of words and letters that just confuses them.

Yeah. I've lost friends because of it.

i almost cringe inside if i have to tell someone i love them, i dont like the way it feels so from now on, (i just came up with this right now) im gonna tell them merry christmas and to have a happy new years!
everybody loves christmas

Lol. . . I like it.

Yep I feel the same as this.
Even if I do love someone I have trouble saying it because it just feels so un-natural. If I do try and say it, I end up stuttering or talking giberish by the end of it...and still don't say it.

I never have the words for these situations either, but I find ways round it. I try to think of what I can actually do to help someone, what would make them happy? For instance, I don't know what to say to comfort my mother when she's upset about her horrible job, but I can hoover the house and have dinner ready when she gets in. I think she actually appreciates it far more.

Reminds me - better log off in a min and make dinner.

I guess I find it hard to show one I care about that I care... when they're feeling up...
When down, I am much better at showing them I care, but of course I wouldnt' wish that on them...