what's sooooo wrong with me?

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It seems like everytime I try to talk to people, esp females I end up in rejection. I can somewhat interact with guys well but with females I see to turn them off or creep them out when I think I am being friendly. does anyone else get ingored by most females?

how do you often strike up conversation? or what kind of gestures or things do you do when being introduced to chicks?

There's a very subtle difference between friendly and creepy. I have yet to figure out exactly where that line is, but it doesn't matter because I know I'm way past it anyway.

This is something I'm trying to figure out too... I'm slowly getting better at it.

But not great, and I don't think I ever want to be great at talking with women... I just don't understand them that much.

I have a natural smile and happy go lucky style about me... so when I'm comfortable this comes through... and women can sense this. But when I'm nervous and confused, and look like I don't belong... well women pick up on this attitude too.

I've started to make more jokes or spread humor, this really helps. You just have to make sure they actually recognize it as a joke, if it's too subtle... well nothing happens and you'll look stupid.

The whole idea of trying to think of how to be accepted by women or asking the question what is wrong with me is the main cause of the problem. Everyone now days thinks they have to try and find a way to become suitable to women and its a complete joke, do you ever hear women saying how do I get men to notice me or why do I creep men out.

This is the way I see it, the world is changing really fast and in a dark way, being nice to women is increasingly becoming a creepy thing to do mainly due to the fact that because women have found a kind of equal part in socoligical functions they behave more like men now and see the whole courtship ritual as a sporting challange or game. When you behave well and show a kind of pleasent caring attitude you automatically mess up all rules and that puts a end to the game causing a confusion within.

Also one the greatist problems I have found is that there is a resentment about women not wanting to be treated with a kind of romantic respect because it gives a solid clue of not being trusted mainly due to the fact that most men now day's also pretend to be romantic and then destroy the females perspective of trust especially within the game play. Women tend to fear the idea of respect and the biggest problem is that aspies tend to really be honest and caring which causes an unfortunate clash with the courtship or friendship ritual system.

One other major problem is that this all stems from mainstreem politics and media control in which women are easily corrupted by the sensationilism of the idea of relationship in which a new corrupt ideal as emerged that fuels materialistic and shallow game agenda against the more natural communication systems. I have noticed though that over the internet when the masks have been taken down and intimacy seems more easy to establish then there is a major difference to outside social game play to virtual space game play.

In the end just try and develop yourself and don't try to hard to focus on others which is hard i agree but learning to love one's self is more important in the long term anyway.

To add just one more thing to this issue, movies still try and make us belive in the idea of romanticisim which fuels us to put this ideal into our subconcious without realising that that one ideal could be a possiblity but sadly I think society will close its doors to a special profound love and if you have noticed we now have lust. For example David Beckham as become a symbol of the perfect man but yet the romance you see on the screen is all a fiction and if he wasnt of high wealth and postion then he would just become mr average.

I have found social interaction with females quite hard in the past, mostly getting by on luck or humor for the ones that continue to speak to me. With my girlfriend - on the day we met, apparently I barely spoke any words at all and she thought I wasn't interested in her.

I suppose in many ways I would say if they get scared then it's not worth it because it's possible other social problems could become a problem in the future if she doesn't take them right.