Stress

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How do you guys manage to deal with stress in your every day life? I for one find it harder to deal with than I think more people, and in someways stress bothers me more perhaps than it should. I always tend to get a little emotional and stay emotional for a few minutes before I finally calm down. Not only that, but the fact is I'm a teenager, so that just adds to the stress. Not fun.

I take change by staging it if I can; for instance, I started the first semester of my first year of college by taking the easiest classes that I could and by gauging my reaction, I took the hardest classes I could in the second semester so that I could have a clear path to start working and attending school in the second year. Before I go back to school I am starting second shift at my workplace at least 2 or 3 weeks before school so that I can adjust my sleeping patterns and not crash in the first few days of school. In my third year I am moving to Columbus and I am saving my money now so that I don’t have to work in the first year (or at least the first semester) and I am going to be moving at least a month early so I can better adjust to living on my own. I try to plan things so that the least amount of variables possible would crop up and I generally (as most people) would rather contend with the smallest number of problems possible at any given time. The last thing I want to happen is deal with a large number of problems that interlock with each other. When that happens, the s**t really hits the fan with me.

If something unexpected happens (such as a seizure, which would mean no driving for some time and by extension, no work while in school) I try to have contingencies so that I can continue on the path I chose, although slower. If the above happened, then I would have to quit my job and get a associates in Drafting (something that would be very easy for me to get) so that I could find good work (after dropping out of school for a while) to make some money so that I can stash it away and finance my greater education in this way.

I’ve learned too long ago that the s**t hits the fan in most unexpected ways; there is never a thing like a happy ending. Todays triumph is tomorrow tradegy and the expectation of a fairy tale life is 100% BS. Its not that one cannot lead a happy life, its that no one ever escapes tradegys and the realities of life. You or I are not special in this department. One storm may pass, that is no guarantee another will not come. That being said, a life that is tragic is not indicative of what is to come. All things have their appointed time and place, and this is the reason I accept what is.

The inner life is an awesome resource of resilience and courage for me. In my mind, I am Prometheus, he who stole fire from the gods to give to humanity; and suffered terribly for it, although ultimately becoming unbound and released. I am Vercingetorix, who fraught Caesar for Gallic liberty and suffered a terrible fate. I am the knight, chiverlous and brave, who will fight to the worlds ending NOT for God, country or king, but ONLY for whom I am and what I stand for. I am Nathan, armored as such, I will never surrender; for endure I all, conquer I all. I hope that did not sound too sappy. . .

It is never wrong for me to sit alone at the lunch table to shutdown at work during breaks. Even if others try to draw me in, it is good and right that I have private time to space out and reconstruct my armor. My time belongs to me, and I do not have to share it with others if I so wish.

Taking a nice, long, hot shower often works wonders for me.

I play with my cat, color in my coloring book, get into the jacuzzi that is in my apartment complex, visit the animals at the Humane society, listen to classical music, watching my saltwater fish swimming around.... All of these things relax me.

Oh, I forgot the most important one!! I play pool (billards) tournaments like 2 or 3 times a week, major stress releiver!! !

I stim, talk to myself, go for evening walks, listen to music, take naps...

I smoke and play in my computer when ever i'm pissed off, or just go out and walk for ages....

IronRoses wrote

I have an emotional blow out every few weeks.

I don't do stress very well. And it doesn't take much for me to get stressed. I have a terribly short temper, even though I can be reasonably 'passive', if I remain aloof.

I get all "pooftis" when I am stressed...
Sometimes I am four years old for hours, sometimes I stim for a while, I paint or knit or sculpt or cook or whatever the hell I am working on that day, I take really long baths, I chain smoke if my son isn't around, not good for me, but oh so calming, I go walking until I have "walked it out", oh my bad days I have a melt down, getting a little better about that, Also I like to cuddle my son if he is in the mood to be touched (being aspie too, sometimes he really isn't, so I have to ask)

I don't get stressed badly enough to ever do anything about it. I'll go through a short period of mania when under an unusual amount of stress if I need to. I know I am now, but that's more confusion related than stress related. Maybe a mix of both...hmmm...If I do get stressed (a low amount), I'll probably just listen to music or say something cynical. I consider that nothing.

When I am very stressed I usually go into one of my depression moods.I often times go to my room and go to sleep or cry alot.But I do try to stay positive about it,and try to work things out sometimes.


-SpaceCase

I like to sleep a lot as well. It is a way of escaping the world for me. I feel like I can exit awareness for a while, for awareness is sometimes the thing that hurts the most.

When I worked, I used to come home and lay on my bed and sometimes I would not wake up until the next morning. I think this was a result of mental exertion!

I go back to my dorm and lay down and pull the pillow over my head to block out light and sound.

I've just reently been learning how to recognize when someone is stressed, because I myself don't have much experience with the emotion. I still have trouble knowing when someone is or isn't stressed. I should probably work on it more.

Since you guys get stressed, how can you tell when someone is stressed?