Ouch!! #2

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Today, the same coworker girls that was mentioned in Ouch #1 thread , told me while I was passing by her , she told me :
- " You should carry an anchor because the wind may make u fly away". (I am short and thin,so I am small in size as overall)
I looked at her with a very dry face :
"Are you intending to joke?
- No
-Good, because I can't laugh for that,can u tickle me and help me laugh?"

Then later a coworker male starts to laugh

- I said: Btw,don't worry about me and the wind ...because my blood is really heavy sometimes so it compensates my lack of weight" (In Lebanese, 'heavy blood' is a local expression that means 'rude and mean' )
She said while smiling :"Oh,really?"

After seconds, whe she was passing by me heading to the exit, I told her:" Hey, be careful to not crack the floor under you" (note:she's slightly overweighted)

It was like a boom on her face and she said with a very yellow smile:
-"Careful to not crack your teeth, tee hee" (she has a fiancee)
- "Don't worry,they won't my dear".


I know that I was jerk but I couldn't help it , she was jerking with me many times before but I couldn't help it this time: I had to reply rudely and offensively with the same manner.

Do you think that I've overreacted?

Last edited by LePetitPrince on 03 Jan 2008, 1:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Not at all. This comeback was really good. I really don't agree with the concept of being the better man who walks away. You defended your dignity, and gave her a taste of her own medicine (American expression for "doing to someone else what they did to you").

No way! She diserved what you gave her. Pardon my wording but.. she's quite the little b***h isn't she?

technically i think she deserved everything she got (though i really can't tell from what you say whether she meant it as friendly banter or whether she was saying it to be nasty under the veil of friendly banter).

unfortunately i suspect that socially you are going ot get the brunt of it. she will tell others in a way in which you are the baddie, because you made reference to a 'lady's' weight. (because women are culturally expected to be neurotic about this, where as men are not supposed to be so sensitive).

i really would ignore her wherever possible - she sounds like trouble.

From what you've described here and in the previous thread, it sounds to me like she was just "ribbing" you. Ribbing is just good-natured teasing between coworkers. It's very common in America and I'm really curious to know if coworkers in Lebanon do it too.

You normally wouldn't do that to somebody you didn't like, and she may just be trying to start a conversation with you or form a friendship.

Even if she was trying to rude, she wasn't very successful in my opinion.

Of course I wasn't there to hear her tone or judge her expression so I don't know if she was just ribbing you or trying to be rude, but it sounds like you might have gone too far by insulting her weight. That's something most women are very sensitive about.

She was ribbing you.

However, there's one rule for them and another for us.

Don't do this at work - you could be in trouble for harassment.

I admit that I might overreacted a bit(but I was tto calm tho). But I am wondering why everyone in the world find that insulting a woman's weight is a terrible crime while insulting man's height and size is okay. Insults based on physical characteristics r always mean because these characteristics such height and even weight r out of our control,well at least weight can be controlled to some extent.
I had to insult her that way so she can understand this.

oh btw I don't care if she tells others , they all know that I not am that kind at all ... and they r not gonna believe that I was the starter baddie.

I ll try to cool things with her tomorrow ,but if she ever repears that then I ll have to defend my dignity again

Neither is ok... they're both forms of harassment.

Women (and this is a huge generalization for which I'll be justly bashed), just seem to be more able to get away with it.



That wouldn't go down in court and more likely you've damaged your relationship with her rather than increased her understanding. Some people just can't be told... and most likely, she is one of them.

I am of Lebanese decent also. Small and thin. She must be crushing on you or wishing she was you. Great comeback. Shall we all suggest comebacks?

“Yes, you are right. I do indeed need an anchor when you are rattling the floor when you walk by. Thanks for the suggestion; next time give me a warning.”

she was over-nice with me today

I am surprised.

What do you mean by over-nice?

What did she do or say?

^^ she talked to me normaly and smiled excessively.

Really? Which generation? Do you speak some arabic?

How about "thin is the new fat"?

Just two days after the incident she told me that she started to be on diet ....hahahahahaha.

At least she can change her weight tho but I can't change my height.