Why does she smile to me ?

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I will try to make a long story short.

I commute by train everyday to go to work and there is a girl that take the same train as me. I spotted her because, well, i always spot everyone so... anyway, very often i walk by her in the train and continue my path. She looks outside or she reads a book so we never had eye contact. Until one day! That day, when i walked by her, she purposefully raised her eyes to look at me and made a smile.

I answer back with a smile too but i continued my path (was way too scared to go and sit with her). A couple of days later, the same thing happened. Well i tought she was interrested in me even though i'm not very interested in her, it was fun to know.

A couple of days later, i saw her without her seeing me and i came to sat not very far behind her. Someone she knows came and sat with her and they had a long conversation which i almost completly ear. I was very surprised to learn that she has a bowfriend, they just bought a new house, and she's 4 month pregnant !

Which part i didn't understood well ?

She may have been trying to make ur day happier. A similar thing happened to me at my buss stop and it was driving me crazy (it was an older woman) and I was telling my friend this at the bus stop and she came to it as I was talking, my friend walked strait over (at that point I wanted to melt thro the pavement) and ask her why. She said that she had nosiest that I always was upset (I always look like that) and though the least she could do was smile at me to make my day brighter. Why people thing smiling at people will make them happier I don’t kno

She's just being friendly.

Smile back.

This person is being warm and friendly enough to show that they are a good person. I suggest you do not play them for a sycophite.

Well, you said that she's someone you saw practically every day and therefore she was familiar to you. I'd guess she probably noticed you in the same way, and therefore thought it was appropriate to start making contact. I echo what Litguy said.

Id rather things like this didnt happen to me as it makes me uncomfortable how to act but recognise that it is people being friendly. Far better to deal with a little uncomfortableness than people giving annoyed looks. I wish i had the confidence to smile at strangers without feeling uncomfortable.

Given your situation, I'd say it's a "hey, I know you" smile. It means little, other than her acknoledging you in a situation where she sees you regularly. I wouldn't get worked up over it. You don't have to feel pressured to start a conversation with her, although feel free to do so. Just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean she can't enjoy talking to other guys. If you feel comfortable enough, go ahead and talk to her. Ask her about where she works, and go from there. The society nowadays is cold and impersonal, especially for aspies. So if that girl is nice enough to acknowledge you, why not talk to her and make her commute more interesting?

Smiles can mean so many different things. None of us hear are good at knowing what meaning a smile is being used for.

When someone smiles at me I feel very uncomfortable... because I don't know what they want.

If someone smiles at you it does not mean they want to have your babies.

She is being friendly, which is nice.

she just wants to be friendly. i get that all the time! it means nothing usually