Addicted

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Ok this might sound kinda strange but Im addicted to one of my friends. Well its rather problematic for me. If I dont see him as much I'd want to I will get rather fustrated and distressed. Lately hes been spending a lot of time in his room I cant really hang because his roommate is constantly there. Where good friends and all but he doesnt want to spend as much time with as I would want it. I really like his personality in general and I have a hard time making friends and I get along with him better then most people. So Im rather clingy, but at least lately Ive been trying to be more social with other people to help ward off the loneliness from not being with him. Like Im trying not to be completely exclusive. But my clingyness is just rather a problems for me.

Ach, that's always a horrible situation.

Clinginess could be an aspie thing...or just a trust thing in general. I tend to be a bit on the clingy side as well for those who gain my trust, or people who I try being friends with but think don't really like me much.

What works best is if you're reassured that the friendship isn't in any kind of trouble, and then just holding yourself back, distracting yourself as much as possible, just really trying to get your mind off of it.

i kind of know how you feel. i've got a few friends that i love to talk to and if i don't talk to them i really don't know what to do with myself. i just really enjoy the conversation even if it's meaningless and shallow at times. I don't think i'm clingy though, i don't really show complex emotions like caring very well so it doesn't seem like i care too much even if i do.

I think you're on the right track though. Trying to occupy yourself with other people is probably a good thing so that you don't go crazy wondering about him. i started to invest too much of myself in a friendship when the other person didn't seem to care all that much so i forced myself to become slightly more distant for a while. Every once in a while i'd tell the person i was busy or something even if i didn't have anything to do. this helped me care less if i didn't get to hang out with them or talk to them. i'm still friends but i'm not distraught if they aren't around.