Do people treat you like if you were younger?

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I'm an adult 32, and some people still treat me like if I was younger.
at stores and restaurants some waitresses sort of show their motherly instics by calling me "sweetie" etc,
sometimes people call me "young lady", like if I was a teenager, you know what I mean.
plus they always card me.
does this happen to anyone?

Yes, all the time, i get treated like I'm 8 or 10, and I'll be 23 in two weeks.

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when people have known you for some time, especially when you were younger, it sticks as an affectionate term for you.

Then again, you may also look at lot younger than your age or have what is called a 'sweet' looking face. If so, you're very lucky, people will usually treat you very nicely.

Sometimes.
I have a small voice, a young face, and a subservient manner.

Worst is being called 'kiddo'.
To which I say, 'Look now you old f*** dont go stepping up on me to make yourself feel better about yourself or of some sort of higher upper standing or we are going to have problems, my name is (such and such), please, I know you are just trying to be cutsie or old school, but don't call me 'kiddo', it is very impolite'

Took me YEARS to come up with that phrase, yet it has been effective maybe all of the times I've used it.

Slight variation for women. Actual, total variation for women. For women it is "please, (name), don't call me that. I know you are saying that because you care for or about me and that is one of your ways to show me, but I have to let you know, that my mother was VERY abusive to me and she used that word to look cutsie and loving in front of the people who she was hiding the abuse from; as such every time I hear it I think of her and how badly she sought to crumble every bit of life from me. Please, please don't call me that anymore, unless you are trying to convey how much you dislike me, in which case I can no longer be your friend. It sounds the same no matter where it comes from. I hope you understand. Thankyou."

I've only used this once, as only once have I needed it-whoops, well twice; both effective.
Though one of the people decided not to be my friend anymore.

I'm worried though now-I don't even get carded for beer. Slav genes must be kicking in. Its about the right time to go truly haggard-perhaps the brit genes will compensate..

Yep.

I always get ID'd when I go to the pub, and people treat me like i'm 16 or something. It's really stupid, I mean, I had to put my foot down with this woman that I babysat for that was trying to pay me like a 14 year old school girl.

had a young'n smiling at me at work. When she found out I was 50 (and married, and a grandfather), the expression was priceless. Didn't know whether to laugh or cry...

Nope.....most ppl think im older then I rly am......... just by looks tho

Everyone thinks I'm older then I actually am XD. Online people don't see or hear me and they simply think I'm older because of the way I act. When they hear my voice they don't believe me at all. When I speak to teachers or counselours they say I'm acting very adult and stuff like that.

I'm 16, but people treat me like a 5 year old.

I met an Aspie a few weeks ago. He had severe asperger, and he was 18 or something like that. (and im 15). Even though we had just met, he kept talking and talking. I was in his room, and it was filled with eletronica he made. He was proud of it, and he kept talking about it. He was so excited. And so innocent. It's hard to describe but it's like the same innosence as when a 3 year old kid comes to you in a restaurant and grabs a frie from your plate. It wouldn't suprise me if some NTs see the same innosence in you. Liike Caramateo who was called sweetie.

I look younger,last year i had to go to a wedding and someone was asking me what school i went to and what did i want to do when i left school.I have been asked to proove my age in shops and all kinds.I am 30 in April this year
As im from England you go to school up untill your 16.

This happens to me a lot. Sometimes it bothers me, sometimes it doesn't. I look quite a bit younger than I am and combined with my personality I guess it is inevitable.

It has some obvious upsides, such as being seen as naive and harmless. Harmless, yes. Naive, no. Just the same, people tend to trust me very easily and be nicer to me than other adults because they are not threatened by me. I tend to be really earnest and people think this is amusing and oh-so-cute.

Sometimes people don't take me seriously, but that will happen to anyone I suppose. I do notice that other adults take pains to not discuss "adult" topics around me, assuming I will be offended or embarrassed. This is fine with me, I can do without hearing about my coworkers' sex lives or drinking escapades. But it does strike me as hilarious given how open I am about everything. Very little embarrasses or offends me. People my own age are especially patronizing. I always feel like they are talking down to me. If only they knew what I thought of them most of the time, they probably wouldn't.

Yes I get treated like I was younger(by some people, not all). Like some of my friends treat me like I was a 7-year-old or even younger. One of my friends said to me once "You are like a baby that needs to watched all the time". If I'm spinning objects or doing other things that I shouldn't be doing at that point for example. Another friend said like a mother says to a child "No" and "Don't", When I was reaching for something. I just hate it! I mean, come on I'm 14! So what if I'm autistic? That doesn't mean I'm a baby

All the time. It also doesn't help that I look young, so I keep on meeting people who initially think I'm still in high school.

It depends largely on the situation.
I can sit and talk to someone quite scholarly about something that actually matters and people often mistake me for being older.

Then at other times, people treat me like a 5 year old [and i'm 16]. Example; My mother was once in the lounge talking to the neighbour about how "guys are lazy" [which I think is total bollocks!]. Anyway, I said to them..."If you think a guy is being lazy, then why not just ask him to help?".
My neighbour replied..."It doesn't matter, you'll understand when your older,".

I mean, what is there to understand?...answer: Nothing!

I am forever getting the..."you'll understand when your older"...line, whenever I add a comment to an adults discussion. It's patronizing.