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I did it, I danced at a party. I swore I never would, then last Friday... I did. I really didn't think I had it in me, now I broke that barrier and I feel a lot less self conscious. Everyone seemed really pleased with me. even people I don't even know were telling me how proud they were of me it's like, this one girl in particular said that quiet guys always start coming out of their shell after they dance... is there any truth to this, am I finally becoming more of an extrovert? Because honestly, as much as I looked like a dick, I had fun... and I want to be more involved at the next party, as it took me half the night to muster up the balls... anyway, yeah, lol... any tips or advice?

Congratulations. That is really great.

I did it in stages.

First time was at a "disco", which i had told my mother was a barn dance, when i was about 14, and i actually managed to dance, after a sort-of friend, who benevolently enjoyed seeming very experienced in comparison to me, gave me tips and instructions on how to.

But then nothing until almost 18, when began to drink alcohol at sixth form college parties. Was still very dopeyish dancing, basic if in rhythm. And I carried on like that, until last year at uni, when suddenly something happened, and i discovered how totally wonderful dancing can be.

It was the year of "Don't you forget about me" by Simple Minds for "The Breakfast Club", and "Johnny come home" (?) by Fine Young Cannibals, and Madonna's "Into the Groove" from "Desperately Seeking Susan", and I loved the films, and somehow it meant something to me, and i wanted to celebrate , and my body just woke up to dance. It was an amazing/glorious experience.

And although it's always still better with some alcohol, i've never lost the "knack" since. It's best when i am fairly fit, ( which am not at mo, ), because have so much more energy and control of body.

Good luck.

don't drink too much. You may feel like you're doing alright, but you'll just embarrass yourself. I frequently get TOO DRUNK, and its not good at all.

I envy ya. I've been told I can't dance at all. I move in time to the music, though...

Well congrats, least you got the courage, did it and enjoyed it, when I was 12 I went on stage infront of about 200 people and sung that oasis song "don't look back in anger" couldn't believe i did it, i wouldn't now lol

Most people don't dance well, so there isn't really much to be afraid of. One thing I do try to avoid at all costs is dancing with people. I can hold on to someone, and move in time to music, but not both at the same time.

It might be an illusion that dancing in itself makes quiet guys less inhibited, seeing as a lot of of my peers demand a few drinks before dancing anyway so of course they would be less inhibited in general. I never drink so I can't say much about that but if you do that's fine as long as you be careful not to drink too much. People can laugh off getting really drunk, at least where I'm from, but it's still not good form.

wow good job

It doesn't matter how much i drink, i never feel comfortable dancing. i was moving a bit with the music on saturday and i think i may have tried dancing with someone (drank too much so my memory's a bit weak) but that didn't last long. i remember being uncomfortable though. i wish i could be comfortable dancing, even if i wasn't great, i'd just like to be able to enjoy it.

as for tips, i've got none, you're way ahead of me on the dancing thing.

Get a few drinks in me and I can dance the whole damn night away, and people tell me I'm good... or at least eccentric and interesting. It defeintely helps you with opening up more, much like karaoke.