Parties/phone #s

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Hello again folks! This next topic is something I've been meaning to ask for some time.

Even though I've AS, I've a number of friends at school whom I enjoy hanging out with. The trouble is, we're only in-school friends. After school, I go home and work/mope. One thing I've been trying to do is figure out how to properly ask for their phone numbers/e-mail addresses. This is pretty difficult for me, since I've never done it before, and I'm not sure how to phrase it.

On the side, I've also been considering hosting parties or trips. There are a number of difficulties here (mostly in my mind I guess). The first is I'm without a driver's license (due to a phobia of cars), my home's generally messy, I've a brother who's a little overeager to criticize me, and--one I got past all those--I'm not sure what sort of things we should do. I live in a small town, with the nearest city barely having even a movie theater. My home isn't much better. We've a PS2 and a GC, but not much else in modern entertainment.

Advice plz?

In-school friends can be the start of great friendships...that's what the film St. Elmo's Fire depicts. Yet, either each individual will
click together in a stronger fashion if the right "chemistry" exists or upon graduation, each will go their separate ways.

Try to find common ground with your friends. Be like, "i just got this new video game - you should come over and play it!" or something like that. or like, if you own a DVD to a favorite TV show that you all share, invite your friends over to watch it. if you both play instruments invite them over to jam... invite people to movies, concerts if you have the same music taste, etc. whatever your common ground is, i'm sure you can find a way to invite them over.

if such common ground pops up with a person you'd like to invite over, mention it, and say something like "you need to come over and we can __________ (insert mutually beneficial activity here)! what's your number? i'll call you later and we should plan stuff"

as for your brother, i'm sure he'll be respectful of you in front of your friends, and if he makes fun of you it shouldn't be any problem teasing him back (nothing too serious though!) - then again, i don't know your brother. if you're worried your house is too messy don't feel ashamed in cleaning it a little bit. whatever you need to do to feel more comfortable

hope this helped!

My close friends can be traced back to my days in middle and high school. I met most of them either in classes, on the bus, or through other friends.

As far as what we'd do together, we would all be together on Friday night by default to watch high school football during the fall--we went to home and away games. (None of us played football--we had other sports but enjoyed the games). We had some common bonds--we liked to debate politics, we all played an instrument of some sort, we all like pro baseball, all of us enjoy video games, play the board game of Risk, etc. If we did something together we'd likely either have video game night or Risk night and we'd all take turns hosting.

We don't really go to big parties, any of us. One of my friends used to have a Halloween party every year where many would be invited, although most of us would keep to the side. I stopped going when all of my friends wound up busy one year and I wouldn't have too many of them around.

I saw phone number as the topic. I don't give the number out to anyone except my close friends. In fact, when girls ask me for a phone number if they meet me somewhere, I usually give them my old phone number, which is currently being used for a fax machine. I'm tough for them to track down and I do that intentionally.