Do you feel like no one accepts you for who you are?

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I've had a bad life,and some of it was due to the fact that no one likes me because they couldn't accept me as I am.When I amde my first friends in the 6th grade,I had to change/hide someof the things about me that I'd figured they wouldn't like.I didn't feel completely accepted though.

It wasn't until early 8th grade that I started to come out and be myself.I was a non-judgemental,tolerant,and,yes,kind person...who dressed like a goth.ALOT of people started to get freaked out of me,and some of my friends stopped talking to me.But most of my friends are cool with it,and some of the new friends I've made admire me.I didn't tell my friends that I was Asperger's and Bipolar until mid-8th grade,and I didn't tell anyone I was bi until this year.Some people think I'm insane and wierd but I'm fortuneate enough to have close friends that undersdtand and accept me.

BUT...my PARENTS on the other hand are a different matter...they can't accpet the
fact that I'm a bisexual Goth.They're like,"Homosexuals are going to hell,and goths are evil."I told them,"Just because you wear all black doesn't mean you're evil!GET OVER IT!And just WHAT makes you think God hates us homosexuals?He loves EVERYBODY!"(I'm a Gothic Christian.)Thye're still an issue.

Sooooo...what about y'all?Do you feel like you can't be accepted as yuo are?Stories welcome.

-SpaceCase

I'm not gay or a goth, but I've still always been an outcast. I'm not always accepted for who I am, and I only worry about it when those people interfere with others accepting me.

Oh yheah, being bipolar and unaware of it was probably a huge factor in alienating people (I have alienated people that way, but I'm not saying you or anybody else has). Space, you may want to repeat your first post in this thread in a bipolar forum as well.

Yes, I have gone through great strains to develop attitudes and interests closer to the norm still with no success.

I've felt for years that I was born into the wrong family, at the wrong time, in the wrong century,wrong school, wrong city,wrong state,wrong country, and get this...wrong planet.................otherwise, I'd be popular, and yeah, I'm NT. So now I have my own husband, my own children,my own house. My own place to belong. Guess I'm ok now.

I've never "fit in." I've always felt like an outsider. Even in the 60's when I saw myself as a "freak," (the darker side of the 60's, Hendrix, the Doors, drugs, etc.), I knew I was just playing a role. I was never sure if others around me were doing the same or not, but I always felt like I was outside of a circle.

Today, despite marriage, children (with autism), successful career as college professor, etc., I still feel that way. I'm never certain of my friends, and see all friendships as fragile and unstable relationships.

I've never really been accepted.

I just realised yesterday I haven't made as much progress as I thought I had.

Some guys like me, but probably only because of what I look like. It's hard to tell people's intentions.

I don't have any close friends.

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I do feel sorry for myself alot of the time, to be honest.

Most of the time I do my best and get on with life, but every few months I have an emotional breakdown and feel sorry for myself.

You're right though, there probably are plenty of people who are accepting. It's just easier for me to remember ones that aren't, for some reason.

There's maybe 1 or 2 people in this world who accept me for who I am. That total does not include me, as I have never truly accepted myself.

You know what I've come to realize? Not everyone in your life is going to appreciate you for who you are. It can be really frusturating, but the one thing to remember is that you are you, and you are comfortable with who you are, and that the majority of people respect you, I mean most people have respect for gays and those who choose to be goth. Not everyone is always going to feel like they will always fit in... I'm definiately an outsider at my school, and I know most people feel this way even if they are the Prom Queen!

People need to learn to respect themselves. Everyone has their own issues, some you couldn't even dream of having in your own life. And if it helps, I think you sound pretty cool. Just my opinion.

In the end, your parents will, or probably already do, have respect for you. You are being defiant and showing people who you really are. That is an amazing thing to do. I don't think many people have the power to do that. Maybe you will influence more people to speak out about themselves!

Oh,and thanks by the way.

-SpaceCase

I fall beneath almost everyone's radar. My parents appearantlly still care for me for who I am and all that rot, but they annoy me because it's a relationship of obligation. I don't want parents. I just want friends.