Making Friends in College

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I'm a junior in college and have literally no friends. Consequently, college life has not been what it's supposed to be. I need help!

What college or university you go to?

what's the holdup? Have you tried to find study buddies (do they even do that in college any more?) group projects, etc?

Maybe just try talking about nothing at all to people you hang around. If you're in a dorm, usually you can make friends that way. Have a roomie (this gets tricky...I had one stoner that....well, 'nuff said.. they probably have friends....

you have the opportunities. The gains outweigh the risks...give it a shot...

not that I am remotely "qualified" to answer this...but try joining a club/organization on campus.
My campus had groups based on interest (running, yacht, nature, kayaking, geology, poetry, tennis, photography, film, foreign languages, travel etc..) and even on ethnic/cultural backgrounds (European Students club, Asian, Polish, Greek, Latino, you name it).

There were also religion-based organizations. And clubs for Med students, Finance club, Econ club, History club etc..

Is there something you think you'd have in common with such a club? Maybe ethnic background or interest? You could make a few friends this way, usually people that like what you like. Go to the Student Affairs office and request info on the list of such clubs/organizations on campus. Choose a couple that may be of interest and ask when they meet. Usually at the beginning of a semester, they have sign-up events. But you can join any time, they're happy to meet more people. Give them a chance.

You can also try a part-time job...going to the gym..getting to know the people that you work with on school projects (maybe go to a cafe to work on a project with them).

Collaborate on projects, study groups, etc. People will really respect you for helping them out! For example, I'm in finals now, and in one of my classes I have to make a ton of plaster molds (I go to art school). An aquaintance of mine has a similar project even though we're not in the same class, so we've been keeping each other company and working together. We've also been sharing supplies, and it's been really good company!

I've also written papers with people who are in the same class. It makes it go by so much faster, and the company is awesome! Two of my friends and I who are in a boring Art History class hooked up our computers via BlueTooth and sent each other notes, making a boring take-home quiz actually really fun.

Basically just be nice to people, and help them out. You are all in your school for similar reasons, so find common ground between these people and work with each other when you can - you're all there to learn anyway, right?

I'm at George Washington University.

One reason I haven't joined any clubs is that I feel all weird joining all of a sudden at the end of my junior year. I don't wanna look weird.

Don't worry. I'm planning on rushing sororities when I'm a second year doctoral student.

I just completed a semester at college and made no friends there what so ever.

You're close to Mason so I don't mind being friends with you. Also it isn't weird to join clubs in your junior or senior year because I have seen in Mason Kumdo Club with Seniors and Juniors.

befriend a professor, thats what I did - people my age are boring and I have things to do.

my first year at college was terrible cause i just didn't form any friendships at all, finally at the end i managed to join a group of friendly people to hang out with and one of these became a good friend in the following year.

try not to worry about it too much, i did and i'm sure it affected my academic performance

I go to Penn State Capitol Campus and I have been going there for a year but haven't met anyone yet. I have no idea how to. In HS I had my twin brother and I would always just hang out with him and his friends never actually making any friends myself. Now that he is not around I am totally lost and even more lonely. Hopefully someone on this forum will be able to help us. Since I was just recently diagnosed with Asperger's I will soon start to receive therapy for social skills and stuff. Luckily there is an Autism and Developmental Disabilities Center in Lancaster, PA near where I live so support in that area will be easier for me to attain. Good Luck to you.