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Trugen
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29 Apr 2008, 3:33 pm

i have a hard time socializing (so what?)
but whenever i see people who i have gotten along with from the past before, i dont feel like bringing up anything, i just tend to flat out ignore and try to avoid them
when i do say something, it feels weird and forced+
Is this weird?
Can you relate?
How can I overcome this?


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29 Apr 2008, 3:41 pm

Yes. Yes. & I wish I knew.

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29 Apr 2008, 5:10 pm

Me too. I also find it hard to say hello to people I am friends with currently- I think it's partly because I never know whether 've insulted anyone or not, I almost dread walking up to them to find they've decided to stop talking to me... I'm a bit of an avoidance personality type.



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29 Apr 2008, 5:51 pm

Often I will deliberately avoid people I knew from years ago. Not sure why.



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29 Apr 2008, 6:25 pm

slowmutant wrote:
Often I will deliberately avoid people I knew from years ago. Not sure why.

exactly


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29 Apr 2008, 7:16 pm

Me, too. I was recently at a shopping center. I saw someone that was my neighbor, a couple of years ago. I sped up to get across the parking lot before she saw me.


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29 Apr 2008, 7:26 pm

I avoid people I think I recognize. Partly because I'm a little face-blind, so I'm never quite sure whether or not I recognize them correctly and I don't want to weird them out. Partly because if I am correct, I want to avoid a social situation in which I'd feel awkward - if I haven't talked to them in a while, I'm not "accustomed" to them as a friend. Partly because I'm not sure if they would want to talk to me after such a while, or if they'd just do it out of some NT sense of social duty that I don't really understand.



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29 Apr 2008, 7:39 pm

if i see someone i knew from before i generally avoid them unless it was a friend that i haven't seen in a while. i don't really feel comfortable approaching them because i never know what to say at first. i won't avoid them if they approach me but i generally won't make the effort.



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29 Apr 2008, 9:06 pm

I do believe it is the fear of small talk. No matter how long i have known someone i fear it and only like to talk to people when i have something to say. i would love to just ignore people when i see them, but i know that is rude so i believe it best to avoid them if I meet them in the street, therefore i avoid being rude, uncomfortable and strange. it maybe that the only way to overcome it is to be normal!


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