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So what has everyones experiences been like socially for college? I ask because I'm starting august 13th.

College is awesome! The first few months may be stressful because you're adjusting, but it's really nice. If you're living in a dorm or apartment, having freedom from your parents will give you infinite socializing opportunities.

In the beginning, you're going to meet A LOT of new people. Don't worry about this - it may be stressful but enjoy it! Be excited to meet new people and explain to them how happy you are to be in school. Ask people what their major is, what classes they're taking, where they're living, who their roommates are, etc.

During the next few months your friendships will shift around a lot. This is bound to happen to anybody; you're just figuring out who you're most compatible with. Spend time with everyone you can, and if someone clicks with you then make extra effort to see them. You will eventually find your own group of friends; this doesn't mean you can't socialize with others, as your friendships will keep changing. Be open to everything.

I hope you have a great first year! It goes by really fast! Let me know how you like it!

Interesting experience, boring people though. Spend time with yourself and growing IMO, great opportunity for that.

My first year I lived alone in an apartment, but my friends lived in a dorm and I would go over to visit. Shallow relationships galore, but I found it very fun to go and mess around with people and play jokes, you know, do things people don't normally see and act really weird because its a building of people you don't know and will probably never see again, so who cares!

Second year I lived with people in a house and started jamming with people. In conclusion, one of these guys was pretty cool but people are still far to influenced by a group over themselves and I like when people can think for themselves. It was OK, but I was not impressed with my social experiences after two years of school, so in my third year I just stopped trying.

Hanging out with people was really boring, they sit around and talk about boring things like what they saw or something they have done that's really not profound, but the people can be amusing and enjoyable in low doses. I found a lot of people were insecure, which was why they brought themselves out there so much, to get themselves out to other people and receive feedback on who they are... I think the important thing is to figure that out yourself, I did that with my college years rather than building a social life - now, I am a musical genius who can play more than one instrument, sing, compose, arrange, songwriter/poet, sound engineering, producer; I can do it all.

To sum it up, socializing was not on the top of my agenda and I did not find it particularly rewarding ;however, it is good to get out every once in a while and to make at least one really good friend in college as it will usually be a profound and life altering relationship that you will always cherish (I have, and he's 70, one of my professors, we drink scotch and talk about life and philosophy).

But watch out, because there are a lot of shallow people and shallow relationships.