Are we too slow to blow people off?

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I'm in my 40s and have come to the conclusion that we Aspies spend too much time a$$ kissin'. I say make it a numbers game, meeting as many people as possible, quickly dispatching anyone that reveals a lack of patience with Aspie traits. This is doubly true for you who are still in your dating years. If it involves money, don't be a stranger to Small Claims court. If you are being taken advantage of emotionally, restraining orders are your friend.

I totally agree (I'm sure that sounds like ass-kissing ).

Basically, aspies aren't assertive enough, are too trusting, and too nice.

People are phony and will use you if you don't use them first.

Well i'm kind of the opposite.
I'm untrusting, but not assertive and heck...I'm not too nice.

I actually "blow people off" too fast, not too slow. I guess I reject them before they have the chance to reject me.

I would like to inject one fine point. If you "use them first", you get your hands dirty coming into contact with a crappy human being. I'm thinking don't use them, dispatch them.

i think this may have happend because of past experiences.
i go both ways depends on the person

This is all too true.

Last year in 10th grade when I got my driver's license my parents required me to drive my sister who is 3 years younger than me to school and back home. Anyway, so I as soon as I got my license these two kids were like "Oh dude, you got to give us a ride!" I was like "No...I have to drive my sister, and they understood at first."

But my sister is in the Drama Club and they have a meeting once a month. She had to stay after school until like 6:30, so I tried to be nice and I offered these kids a ride, even though it is illegal in Georgia until 6 months after you get your license. I don't really have any friends and have a hard time making friends, so I would pretty much do anything to try to help people. They were like, "Sure," and I did. The next day, they ask for another ride, which I couldn't do, and they understood again, at this point.

Then my sister started working on a drama production, and staying after school everyday pretty much, which meant I could give them a ride everyday unless they had my sister had drama breaks and she did about once every two weeks about 1 month into the drama production.

So, everyday they were like "Dude, you giving us a ride today?" And I did. Then when my sister didn't have drama for like 3 days, they had already gotten used to getting a ride home, and were like "OMFG dude, WTF are you supposed to be driving us everyday, we need a ride home!" I tried to tell them no, but when I go into the parking lot, they were already in my truck and wouldn't leave, so I had to text my sister and lie about how I have to stay after school and she needs to ride the bus. So that ended up happening a few times, and eventually I realized the "friends" I had were just out to use me for their own purposes, we used to talk about stuff we enjoyed. When I started driving them, everyday, the first thing they asked was, "Are you giving us a ride today?" As if our entire friendship depended on me driving them home everyday.

That caused way to much drama, problems, and money. Don't let the same thing happen to you, like the guy said, make sure to use them before they use you.

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