Either I'm not talkative enough or...

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Ever feel like this or find yourself in this situation?

You go for a while with no communication with others. You step out of it and then find yourself feeling like opening up and oops you say too much now you feel embarassed and want to go back into your own world.

Yeah, all the time. I have a strange thing, where sometimes I can be really outgoing, depending on the people and environment I'm in, while other times I don't say a word.

I am talkative at heart, but a lifetime of people telling me its too much has made me fairly quiet. Every so often though I'll feel comfortable enough to start talking like I want to again... most of the times I get one of those wonderful reactions from others (1. they talk over me 2. Smile, nod and walk away 3. Play along this time but never strike up a conversation again) and I kick myself and remind my self to shut up next time.

Then again, with some people I can talk as much as I want... got to luv those people called friends.

Always. I don't even necessarily feel embarrased, I just... withdraw back into myself until I feel dicontent again.

Even when I feel like I'm on top of myself and I could handle some social situations, I get into those situations and just completely fall apart. I never know how to sit or what to do with my hands or where to look. After awhile, the desire to even try just fades because it always turns out the same.

This has been an issue for me my whole life.

100%...I am the queen of TMI and then worry that I have offended and am afraid to ever see the person again. I don't now if this is an AS thing but it sure is a "me" thing.

a bit. I try to use short, declarative sentences, giving out only the information asked for by the NT... sort of works...

then I get people asking me to 'loosen up'...be careful what you ask for...

YES!, YES! and YES! I have this down to a fine art in the workplace. In a nutshell, memorize a menu of a couple dozen greetings and randomly say them. If someone starts talking to me, I respond with a work related response, they get bored and finish the conversation which prevents me being considered not a "team player".




I have a meeting set up on this very topic with my director. The topic of the meeting is mitigating my Aspergers. I intend to discuss if she's interested in supporting me fully interacting with the rest of the team. This would take time and attention on her part. I intend to give her an "out" by asking if she has time for this and reminder her that "no" is an acceptable answer.

I did not know what team work really meant. It really means fitting in. Such strange words people use that really should mean something else.