Approaching others

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I want to make some friends next year at university and I'm wondering if it is alright to apporach and talk to them for a while, to see If I could make a friend out of them.

Definitely. Make sure it sounds natural and unrheahersed though. Good luck.

Also you might wanna take a look at the threads about small talk and body language - they can be very important when initiating and participating in short conversations (getting to know each other sort of thing).

Think over an 'interesting' topic that you can briefly discuss beforehand, and one which could be liked by the other person - take a sport, say football and then, even if you dislike it, you could get talking by discussing who won the footy on the weekend, or where a certain team is on the ladder. That way if you get stuck with conversation you have a backup which you can talk about. If you start talking to them and get good results take every other opportunity to say hi or nod to them, and avoid some conversations so that you don't appear over-excited about the friendship and they will want to talk to you more because it seems like you never have time to talk whenever you see each other. That way they could also invite you out to catch up because you have little time to talk when you would see each other at uni so the other option is to meet up somewhere some day and talk then.

I always found it easy to speak with classmates before or during breaks at class. "Did you get this answer (point to paper) on your homework." That usually is good. You could also talk about if you had problems with a particular problem.. It seems NT's love talking about problems.
Plus, even if you aren't having any particular difficulties, it may make you seem not so smart, and NT's love that! (They used to joke that if you want a A to have me help tham with homework... ) Hope this helps

Build up your male friends first, newchum, before you go trying to chat up women. Find guys who are doing same classes as you, or things that you like doing, and try to spend a bit of time with them. Be seen around the campus with them. When you start talking to a girl, it will help if she's seen you around somewhere, and if you're with someone, she's not only more likely to remember you, she's more likely to continue talking with you. The other purpose of having guy friends, especially if they're more extroverted than you, is to provide another avenue for the conversation to go down, if you hit a brick wall.

Just do it. Just go up to them and say, "Hey, what's up on the flipside?" Even if they say "Nothing", you can still make a convo out of that. "Oh, really? Nothing much with me too... as we already know! So what ARE you doing just sitting there?"


People want to be around happy people. No matter how weird you are, don't be nervous or sad or scared or anything like that... no matter how weird you are, they'll like you if you're happy. Well, they'll like the happiness, if nothing else. If it's too hard with one person just go on to the next.