Destructive Urges

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How do you handle destructive urges? I mean, when I'm bored for an extended period of time, I sometimes become sad or irritable and very antsy. Yesterday, Sunday night, I was extremely bored and going to the IRC channels trying to find something to do; I was far too bored to study. I started saying random silly stuff; but, as the boredom progressed, I didn't even want to sit down at my desk. Yet I had no where to go, nothing to do. I started complaining about the lack of interesting things to do on campus to my roommate, and he made a somewhat curt response: "That's your opinion." He seems to be dismissive and abrupt in his speech sometimes; he doesn't seem to enjoy the company of other people, so the f*cker stays in the dorm room all the time such that I have no privacy. I was rapping at my desk; as I walked down the hallway, I punched my thigh a few times; etc.

I sometimes get the urge to break things in this state of mind.

Why can't I get a girl? I really want to do certain things that require the company of a woman.

Is there no way you can get an apartment outside of campus to yourself?

Oh how I have had many thoughts and dreams of going postal on people and the tangible objects they hold so dear to them. Of course I've never had the desire to act upon such thoughts, but they can't stop me from dreaming.

The reality of college is that you get to spend 4 or more years of your life crammed in a tiny room with other people who are not going to give that much of a thought about your wishes and desires.

Often times the only way I can control these urges is to totally get away from the situation and by then the damage has generally been done.

I developed a lot of hobbies, keeps me sane. I will admit I become difficult if I am not able to do them for extended periods of time though.

Make a collection of objects you don't mind breaking. Larger items such as nonfunctioning monitors, bottles, old textbooks etc.

Then take all these things to the shooting range, and shoot'em full of holes.

PS - I'm not psycho so don't worry.

I actually have given in to that feeling before. The results were a broken wall. I've since learned how to resist, and yes, I am insane. I get the urge to go crazy and beat up people all the time, the wolrd is full of the most aggravating beings ever.

It's mainly other people that make me want to break things. Or myself.

Try playing an aggressive video game or watching a violent movie? That can be quite a good way to relieve those sort of impulses without endangering yourself or others. Or try listening to some music- perhaps make a playlist that begins with angry aggressive music, and slowly changes to more peaceful music. This may help your mood.

That is my idea of hell - sharing a room with someone. I don't mind sharing a house as long as I have my own personal space - but now I wouldn't even want to do that. Having my own place is great, if a little lonely at times.

if I were you I'd try and find a house/apartment share with like minded people. If you get a share with some girls then you will probably find it easier to socialise with girls as a knock on effect.

That sounds like a good idea to me.

I frequently get the urge to destroy something. Usually i fing something inexpensive or unwanted to bash about when im in that mood. Though i have occasionally broken more important stuff such as a window, one of my trophies or my arm.

I also used to be violent (elbowing them in the face and other stuff) towards other people though fortunately i have managed to tame that part of my personality. Now i tend to judt get irritable rather than angry

I used to be a rather volatile child. I remember on one specific event I had my bike stolen by neighborhood children. My first and immediate response was to acquire a bat and retake it. And I did. Bat > Children.
God I love that story. Anyway, as I grew up I managed to channel destructive energy into creative things. I've made some shoddy poetry out of anger and one or two semi-good short stories. It also doesn't hurt to love video games. Running over an entire NC encampment in your giant super-fighting robot can suddenly make a crappy day fun again.

But I'll say one thing. Don't just stiffle your anger. I tried that for a while and really nothing good comes out of it. Yell and scream whatever you have to do to let it out. (Hopefully directed outward instead of inward...)

I bet you do not do regular physical exercise. That is why you are bored. If you get bored, go outside and go for a walk. You are bored because you have nothing to do right? If you have nothing to do, then you can go outside and walk 5 miles. I guarantee that after walking 5 miles, you will not be bored, you will be tired.

As for your roommate.......You are negative. You are speaking to him negatively. He is defending himself from your negativity by speaking abruptly. You are the problem, not him. From his perspective, you are a whiner looking for someone to entertain him. He is your roommate, not an entertainment device.

Why can't you get a girl? I don't know. You didn't talk about girls. If they see you walking around punching yourself, I would bet most of them would run away.

I actually do exercise regularly. I run, do situps, and do pushups. I have a high energy level and metabolism, too.

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