'Pulling someone's leg'...

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Sorry, couldn't think of a more descriptive title than that, bah...
Basically, I've got a bit of a problem when it comes to sarcasm, friendly teasing and that sort of thing - I find it really difficult knowing when people are just teasing you, and when they're being deliberately nasty.
Case in point, I was round at my friend's flat tonight. His girlfriend and I have been friends for years, but she's very given to trying to wind me up. While I've never been particularly great with not taking it to heart, when I mull it over in my head rationally, I usually know that winding me up is all she's doing. However, tonight, for some reason, I just couldn't. I just took it straight to heart and had to end up leaving, because it just felt like she was trying to get at me, and I didn't want to make things awkward by sticking around and creating a bad atmosphere.
So really I was just wondering if anybody has any good tips for being able to deal with sarcasm, or better judge somebody's tone? Basically I really don't want this to happen again

(PS I should also add that these are the two people who first suspected me of having AS, and the girlfriend has AS herself)

ABSTRACT POETRY

Dont know so much
See BAD
Worse than any Horror u could ever see or experience
I dont know them but theyre real because it comes true
Places Ive never been (REALLY NEVER BEEN) n it comes to me in
Dreams vision whatever
Ive seen them one too many years
but its strange how events unfold and you end up meeting people n places that you never been
'n see there is something so BAD
cant comphrehend
Im not lettin it come true
OH HELL
SPIDERS
Better get back to my Quack
Put the pack on my back
'n shot all the mothr fuckrs down
so Get The HELL OUT of town

it's hard to give advice when it comes to dealing with sarcasm as everyone has different reactions and levels of ability for dealing with it. but i will say that if you take it seriously, your friends should be friends enough to know when to stop. but if you can just keep telling yourself that what might be hurtful is just play, maybe play along for a while. i won't suggest teasing them in return because i don't know how well they can take it, but perhaps you could brush of their remarks as unimportant, silly, joking with no cruel intentions. and if it bothers you enough that you can't handle it, just ask them to stop...don't be afraid to be straight forward with your request. i hope that helped any.

The only people I talk with never understand my sarcasm. They make jokes and the like but when I do it, it's all serious business. Even if I'm just repeating what they said. I dunno if they're still joking at that point or not. D:

Where's the post about a busboy being yelled at to "throw it all behind you", and making a millisecond decision to toss his entire tray of dirty dishes in the behind direction? That may describe it adequately, as I recall being asked, "Why would you blindingly wrap a tissue around a water bottle?" Only to answer with, "Because you told me to."

I'm not good at telling when people are just joking or using sarcasm...I am even worse at using sarcasm myself. People take me seriously, no matter how obvious I think it is that I'm just joking. Often I am just piggybacking off a joke that someone else just made, but all laughter immediately ceases and people look at me uncomfortably. I've been told it's because my face is serious and my vocal tone does not sound like I am joking. To me it does, but...

Yeah, I'm somewhat like that in that I'll most likely interpret things in their most literal and straightforward sense first. Not to the extent of the plate-throwing example, but you get the idea. Just to the extent where I find it very difficult to interpret things such as irony, sarcasm, metaphor and the like, unless somebody's already explained to me what it means.