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Sometimes you can't help but say something dumb? Well, I believe I do. I said something really dumb to someone today, and now I very much regret it.

Yes, I always make a fool of myself in social situations by saying dumb things and I always regret it afterward.

I can say dumb things and sometimes regret it but I always realise everybody does say something dumb sometimes, peole do. Really, don't make an elephant out of a mosquito! Don't be afraid of saying something dumb, it will make you prevent saying anything and that is really dumb!

Saying dumb stuff is often about not being genuinely interested in what you're talking about - a frequent occurence for Aspies.
90% of all conversations I have are pretty uninteresting.
Most of the genuinely interesting thoughts I have, aren't communicated - because most NT's are a pretty intellectually incurious lot.
Most NT's just want laughs or to intellectually joust (ie - point-score).

Most NT's simply aren't that interested in (small 'A') academic thought-trains unless there's some sort of defined goal ... they're always trying to steer a conversation round to something that makes them look good or feel good ... the basis of social intercourse, I guess.
It's not often you meet someone who's happy to invest time in free-wheeling.

i've actually found that sometimes, especially in moments of tension or stress, i'll say idiotic things even though part of me at least is aware that i might be commiting social suicide, or at least making myself look a real ditz. i'm thinking of a specific instance that i'm too embarrassed to recount, but it's happened to me a few times. it's almost on the order of mild Tourette's, i swear to God!

yep sometimes the direction to close mouth just doesn't make it fast enough!

I'm always fighting the urge to say whatever I'm thinking at the moment. Usually it's something silly, or something pertaining to my current special interests/"obsessions". Other times, someone will say something, and then like a friggin' encyclopedia, I'll give them a fact about the subject, or tell them how it works... Some people look to me as "Professor Ann", and others just look at me... and look at me... and look at me... There are also those who laugh at me behind my back. I think I've figured out who they are at the office, so I try to avoid any conversation beyond the cordial "Hello" back for the sake of not attracting any vengeful behavior. I guess I'm lucky that a good amount of the people I meet seem to only be mildly put off by my seeming knowledge of everything from medical science to computers.

In summary, it can be very embarrassing. I've gotten better at filtering some of the more raw content, but I'm always going to blurt out something that'll throw someone off. I count my blessings that I can throw them my husband's way and he'll do the same back. It's very comforting.

I say weird s**t sometimes ... not as much anymore ... but I used to .. best thing to do is own up to it ..l "Did you just say that?!?!?!?!" ... Yeah I did ...

I think it is more important you focus on why you say these things ... and why they are considred "awkward" by the socil norm ... you see?

That's how I have always looked at it ... as a test or a challenge ... can I figure out the system and beat the game???? We shall see I am going on year 22 and still have much to learn

often i say something weird or unexpected and it puts people off. i also have the problem where i over think what i'm going to say and miss out on saying something good. i'll just be trying to hard not to say something stupid that i'll end up not saying anything good at all. i think they're both pretty bad problems to me.

90% of all conversations I have are pretty uninteresting.
Most of the genuinely interesting thoughts I have, aren't communicated - because most NT's are a pretty intellectually incurious lot.
Most NT's just want laughs or to intellectually joust (ie - point-score).

Most NT's simply aren't that interested in (small 'A') academic thought-trains unless there's some sort of defined goal ... they're always trying to steer a conversation round to something that makes them look good or feel good ... the basis of social intercourse, I guess.
It's not often you meet someone who's happy to invest time in free-wheeling.

I can relate to each point exactly, Membersix! I really like this website, alas people I can relate to and just *get it*

It's such a relief!

Stuff like that happened with me a lot more when I was younger. Didn't think before i spoke.

Not so much a problem anymore.

Same here. I was a lot worse as a kid, although I didn't know what I know now.

I said something "dumb" today that really embarrassed me at work. It shouldn't have bothered me as bad as it did, but I obsessed a bit over it for awhile.

I forgot my keycard to the project room, so I knocked in the old "Shave and a Haircut" fashion. The door opened, and 2 of my closer co-workers were in there. The one said, "Oh, I knew it was you". And I said, "Oh, how?" She said, "Cuz you did that special knock!" And I said, "Oh, the old Shave and a Haircut"? I got 2 puzzled looks from the both of them. "Shave...?" So I said, "Yeah! *rhythmically* Shave... and a hair... cut!" This just puzzled them further. "I didn't know it had a name!? Ann, that's way too obscure for me!" And I said, "I thought everyone knew that!"

Neither of them knew that the old cliched knocking rhythm actually had a rhyme to it, and I further insulted them by being genuinely surprised at their lack of knowledge. *sighs* Stupid, I know, to be so embarrassed over knowing MORE than someone about things, but geez. I really feel like I'm on the wrong planet sometimes! Hah!

Today was just one of those days I found myself a bit more lonely. I prolly read too much into it, but that's okay. Coming here makes me ready to jump right back on my feet again and grasp back onto that Aspie pride I let momentarily slip away...