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princesseli
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07 Aug 2008, 8:45 pm

I dont like when people say thank you in forceful ways such as...

1. Tell you a demand which you might not want to do and say thankyou at the end. I interpret this as an extra emphasis on saying "Do what I say!"

2.When someone forces you to do something against your will, they might say thank you afterwards. Its like whats the sake, you forced me to do this.

3. When a theres a sign up that causes people inconvience, they might say at the end, "Thanks for your understanding" Thats like forcing a person to understand and accept whats happening when they might not.

I get why people do it. Its to smoothen over the interaction when it often dosent at least in my eyes. I think its just stupid. To me it often just puts an extra emphasis on the forcefulness.



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07 Aug 2008, 8:52 pm

princesseli wrote:
I dont like when people say thank you in forceful ways such as...

1. Tell you a demand which you might not want to do and say thankyou at the end. I interpret this as an extra emphasis on saying "Do what I say!"

2.When someone forces you to do something against your will, they might say thank you afterwards. Its like whats the sake, you forced me to do this.

3. When a theres a sign up that causes people inconvience, they might say at the end, "Thanks for your understanding" Thats like forcing a person to understand and accept whats happening when they might not.

I get why people do it. Its to smoothen over the interaction when it often dosent at least in my eyes. I think its just stupid. To me it often just puts an extra emphasis on the forcefulness.
I concur. Solid point. Another one ... giving somebody bad news and then saying Have a good day ... as if ... it's basically like saying f**k you ... however when people say it with truly kind voices I really do appreciate it. It's the difference between those who care and those who don't and just want the money...


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07 Aug 2008, 11:40 pm

yeah the tone of voice is more important than the words themselves

i have a hard time saying thank you because i worry that i sound insincere but i always do it because i know it's the polite thing to do... sometimes though when you really appreciate the other person's effort what can you say but thank you..? :shrug:



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08 Aug 2008, 1:46 am

princesseli wrote:
I dont like when people say thank you in forceful ways such as...

1. Tell you a demand which you might not want to do and say thankyou at the end. I interpret this as an extra emphasis on saying "Do what I say!"

2.When someone forces you to do something against your will, they might say thank you afterwards. Its like whats the sake, you forced me to do this.

3. When a theres a sign up that causes people inconvience, they might say at the end, "Thanks for your understanding" Thats like forcing a person to understand and accept whats happening when they might not.

I get why people do it. Its to smoothen over the interaction when it often dosent at least in my eyes. I think its just stupid. To me it often just puts an extra emphasis on the forcefulness.


It's not really forcing anything and I don't think it's stupid, though it is an effective barrier to remove any unpleasantness the sheeple may try to bring up or cause. Especially when there is no way to avoid some kind of unpleasantness. Such tactics are often employed I find.

Take waxing a floor for instance. While waxing I may say "Go the other way please", to keep people from walking on the wet wax, which would be very unpleasant for me and costly for the school in my time and supplies, but having to walk around the other way is also unpleasant for them. It's a sort of F*You and Me really, and I'm not forcing anything on them unfairly.

Their thanking you is supposed to show appreciation for your cooperation, as your lack of cooperation could cause all kinds of unpleasantness. I don't think the problem lies in their appreciation, but in your interpretation. They could just as easily(Often more easily) be nasty and unappreciative. Which would make it easier for you to be nasty and uncooperative. I don't see that as benefiting anyone really. Your attitude comes off as immature imo.


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10 Aug 2008, 7:26 pm

one of my former roomates used to constintly bombard me with food (like i was attacked to eat) i dont know why he did that naturally i like eating but i really dont like it when someone forces me to eat