Have you always felt left out of everything?

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This has happened to me a lot over the years, but I think it has been happening to me a lot this year.

I felt like that more when I was younger, but not as much
anymore. However, a big group of people I know is planning
a camping trip on the beach next weekend and I have not
been invited. I actually got the vibe that I was not wanted
from the one organizing the whole thing. He was very vague
about the location when I asked about it, and he didn't give
me any other info. Sucks, doesn't it?

Yes, and it gets worse as I get older

Yes and no I sometimes feel like there is something everyone else is in on that I really want to be part of , but if I get close to what they all are doing or like it seems empty and like it was someone else s thing they wanted. Like I think the lives family members have although they have better stuff and houses and always enough food doing what they do would feel empty. So it feels like it but I wonder left out of what?

I don't feel like it gets better or worse.
It just gets... different.

The topic title is pretty much my social, love, and school life wrapped up in a single sentence.

yes! It's no different now in my 40s than it was in my teens.

Yea I feel the same because people expect alot more from you as you get older.

I don't feel CONSCIOUSLY left out much anymore, it's just I feel... apart from everyone. Like it's their world, which I can maybe understand intellectually if I try hard enough, but I can't relate to, and therefore can't honestly and fully take part in. And because I've more or less given up on trying to be "normal," a lot of people don't seem to notice me unless I bring attention to myself in some other way, and usually that's not so lasting, and only good half of the time. I still want to believe that I can have the sort of life that others expect, except on my own terms, but some days it's harder than others to believe in this.

Yeah a few years back i felt like i was on the "wrong planet" ( haha ) and i always got picked last for dodgeball , i ate lunch alone or with my only friend who was as unwanted as me, and usually nobody wanted to talk me in class before the bell rang. I'm glad i figured out the issue ; it was all in my head all along.

All the time.
It's a symptom of the syndrome.
(being left out due to social innability)

That's what they want you to believe.
More often than not, I'm left out because I DO UNDERSTAND.
Better than they understand themselves.

THIS to the 11ty billionth power!

Some old acquaintances of mine live a lifestyle that seems full of excitement. They're always traveling, or throwing parties, or going camping, or tubing down the Deleware. They have all the time in the world for themselves, and no room for those with children. This is when I realized that all those things they're doing, although sometimes fun, won't be fulfilling in their old age if they don't have somone to pass it on to. Not that I think everyone has to have children, but I think that it's amazing how I, a friend of 14 years, seem to be forgotten so easily when it comes to planning get togethers because I have children and refuse to dump them off somewhere every weekend like unwanted baggage.

There are some moments of weakness where I crave the old days, but then I wake up and realize that my greatest treasures can be found right at home. No matter how lacking I am in social contact lately, I'm not lonely. My husband and children are always there for me, not just when it's convenient.

I've also brought myself back here for the first time in like 2 years to make sure I don't forget how to connect. It's good practice for me to chat here.

Isn't that beautifully ironic? Yeah, I'm in the same boat, Tahitiii.

I felt more left out when I was younger. I still feel a bit left out.

i felt this way when i was young, then i got better at socializing and became a bit more outgoing. for a while i felt included (for a year or a year and a half), but then i realized how many social faux-pas i was making and began to realize i was still different and still interacted differently than others. i started to notice the groups of friends that everyone seemed to have that i didn't, and how i was always the outsider of the group at events and stuff, so now i feel it again. it's different now than when i was younger though, i'm not openly dismissed, but i'm not openly accepted, and i'm now aware of this.