If you could give one piece of advice to.....

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A parent who's child is on the spectrum or a teacher who has a student with autism or asperger's. What would that advice be?
I would be very grateful if you would respond.
Thanks!

If it doesn't affect them academically, don't inform the class about the condition.

Watch out for, and never tolerate any bullying!

ok, I can give first hand experience about teachers and aspie's.
some teachers are very sympathetic when explained to that a particular pupil has aspergers, but may never actually look into the disability. They assume its a rounded off case and you just have problems fitting in, also assuming that you wont have problems with basic stuff like organization or think your dumb or lazy because your schoolwork doesn't match your ability. These teachers in my eyes are really annoying and punish you for things you cannot help. The other extreme is the one that thinks because you have aspergers your even more different and keep you isolated nd treat you differently. Although they don't usually tell the class about your disablement its almost as if they are painting a great big neon sign over your head saying 'hey, i'm the teachers favourtie as she lets me off with more stuff, come and have a square go at me for free!!'its really annoying and can also led to bullying, something we all don't need more off. the thing i would tell a teacher is strike a happy medium, know the kid is different but don't blare it out to the whole class! be patient and you shall be rewarded with a happy pupil who wants to try.

Don't contradict yourself a LOT (especially changing your mind in the space of 3 seconds and bitching about why your child(ren?) are mad/confused/etc and slow to rearrange themselves.)

Don't mess with their rooms excessively; that's annoying and I see no point in it (and a waste ro energy/time). Same with having them clean it up-minimal-and I mean MINIMAL 'clean-up'; I mean keep a corridor to allow you to walk if needed and that's it.

DO NOT HIT YOUR CHILDREN AND CLAIM ITS ONLY 'TO HELP THEM' OR TEAR UP THEIR WORK BECAUSE IT IS NOT 'NEAT' OR THREATEN THEM WITH HITTING THEM OR MILITARY SCHOOL OR IGNORE THEIR WILLS AND DESIRES AND FORCE THEM TO STAY WITH YOU WHEN YOU GET IN ARGUMENTS AND THEY WANT TO LEAVE AND YOU b***h ABOUT THEM DISREPECTING YOU WHEN THEY WARN YOU AND PULL OUT BS CONNOTATION TOO

oh....

don't yell at your kids; it cn be stressful and they may do the same.

And none of that BS 'im the parent' and 'i say so' and you complain when they pull that right in your face when it's not advantageous to you when you did the same.

Your child is a person, with a condition - he or she is not sick, stupid, or psycho; just different.

the advice i would give is tell them to research what aspergers is so they know how to handle it and perhaps look into what methods are better to teach/raise an aspie because they are going to respond to things differently.

to watch out for bullying is also very important

Yeah, and be patient. Many people with autism or Aspergers have very narrow interests or abilities, and most end up being restricted to one or two topics of interest.

don't lie. this includes that weird, stupid teasing adults do to children all the time.

for example, i overheard this idiotic sentence once-- "oooh you got a red bike for your birthday? wow! red bikes go the fastest!"

no. red bikes do not go the fastest. so do not lie-tease. they will believe you, and be upset later.

If he's upset, leave him alone. They hate to be smuthered