should i be friends with this person or not?
she's tired of me because i talk often about how im feeling. im depressed all the time, so i tell about things, but now i just randomly tell her about things related to my problems. i've known her for over a year, but she thinks that she shouldn't get close with me because this is what happens. now i don't want to call or see her(although i don't see her much) unless she does it first. is this an aspie thing? i admit that im the only one talking on the phone and i always have a certain topic im obsessed about to her like what kind of mental illnesses i think i have. i did talk only and a lot about these kind of things like movies and actors. do you think i have severe asperger's? i have it mild. we were close, but now we aren't. she goes mad once in a while because of this. i also didn't bring a book and her umbrella she told me to bring. i was focused on giving the umbrella before she went away, but i guess she wanted it before then. do other aspies notice their problems, too? if so, do they fix it?same with the book. when i picked up the phone, i told before i said anything that i would bring the book, but she said asked how i was going to bring it if i didn't bring it today, so i thought that she didn't need it the next day. i was also focused on giving it to her the day she had that class. but she got mad and surprised that i didn't.
Hey, firstly, don't worry too much about forgetting the book and umbrella. It's not the end of the world to forget stuff. Sure the other person might be annoyed, but it happens. Just say you'll bring it next time you see her.
Secondly, you're right that going on about only what you're interested in will not endear you to people. If you want to keep this friendship, you will have to learn to talk about other peoples' interests too. You don't have to wait for her to phone you- in fact, it might be nice if you rang her and asked how she was etc...- just try not to dominate the conversation.
Best of luck!
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