Overprotective Parents

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Does anyone else have over protective parents? I am late teens and am not allowed to date, walk down street alone, see my friends out of school, go to parties, do anything basically. I am expected to do well at school and that's it. This is not due to cultural or religious beliefs. I can drive but I am not allowed to drive anywhere. I rely finacially on my parents, tried sneaking to places ( lying is stressful), and talking to them, but they will not change. My older siblings have gone through the same thing and some have disowned my parents because they hate their upbringing. I will escape soon to college, but worry I will not be able to cope with freedom.

aww dont worry, my parents are overprotective too.. i want to live up with my boyfriend when im older n my mum keeps sayin forget it, she says that he should live where i am so im close to my family but i like it round his, he lives like half hour away from me, and at 1 point mum didnt want me to stay at his.. n im 17

but what you gotta do is stick up for yourself... it will work coz thats what ive been doing, there's still certain things my mum dont want me doing like sleeping in same bed as my boyfriend or she'll go mad coz apparently "it's not right"

My mum's very overprotective of me its kinda annoyin, and she dont like me walking back from train station by myself either but i can see that point. there's loads more stuff

Jess
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Being over protective is one of the worst things a parent can posibly do to a child.

Children NEED to explore the world for themselves, in an unstructured way. This allows them to build autonomy, self confidence and problem-solving skills that they will need as adults. Also, children need the chance to make mistakes - human beings usually learn best by F-ing up.

Furthermore, on a more macro-level, sociological scale, overprotective parenting extends adolescence into the late twenties and causes the next generation to expect most decisions to be made for them.

My appologies... I am bitter due to my own overprotective parents, whom I have had relatively little contact with in several years.

This is correct.
the best way to handle things is to teach them.
sex/drugs/violence/etc/etc.
you can not hide the world from them, you only make them ignorant when you do, making them easier pray to those follies.
you teach them truth and how to handle living and putting up with the real world.
but most of all, you help them learn about them selves and who they are, help them build that inner strength and confidence.

My parents can be overprotective at times. They won't let me listen to uncensored music, watch r-rated movies, and all this stuff. Well, all my CDs are uncensored, I watch r-rated and unrated movies all the time, and have had several girlfriends despite their protest.

Don't kid yourself. You'll love the freedom! Why do you think so many college freshman go wild and even get in trouble their first year away from home? Just be sane and don't go overboard doing everything you've ever been told not to do and you'll be fine. The freedom is great being able to do your own thing, make your own choices, watch tv shows your parents forbade you from, talking to the races, religions and types of people your parents swore were bad, etc. Believe me I am 40 and am still rejoicing being away from my parents because they were exactly like how you describe your parents. And at 40 my parents are still trying to convince me that I can't take care of myself and begging me to move back in with them. I guess some people are just more needy than others not being able to live with an empty nest.

My senior year composition teacher read us a story. I wish I could tell you the name of the story, but can't remember. Let me just give you the final words in the story... "Let yourself out of the Mason Jar and fly free".

Mine were like that to me when I was a teen. They didn't believe in teen dating, but it didn't really matter to me anyway because there was nobody around for me to date the way my school marginalized me and I didn't have any way to meet people from other schools.

I also wasn't really allowed to go anywhere and if I was, when I had to be home was timed to the minute and if I was late, I was in trouble. They also often forced me to go places with my sister because for some reason, she didn't like going places alone.

I'm not sure how it impacted the way I lived because I just wanted to stay in anyway.