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I have semantic pregmantic and aspgers syndrome but at the moment I haven't really got any friends. How can I get by in life without having a lot of mates? I am nice pleasent person as well which can help I guess?

I am worried that I have angered my old friends becuase we haven't been in touch for a while This is another thing that is worrying me as well.

I just need some tips from you guys thats all. I would really appreciate some answers to my question

Guys please I just need some advice and ideas on how to get through this problem in my life!

You ask a difficult question. I guess the answer is similar to the one I got when I asked someone where he found the energy to do his job, and he said "you just do". Get in contact with your old friends. That is the only way to see if they are angry with you. Explain to them if you can that you have trouble with keeping up friendships, you aren't likely the one to say "lets go out", but that doesn't mean you wouldn't say yes if asked. Sometimes people forget about the quiet people (or think that maybe we aren't going to come out if asked anyway), so we have to make a little noise so they think of us.

Find a club with your interests. Its easier to hang out with people that want to talk about the things you are interested in. Practicing social skills in such an environment is good, and then you also have something to look forward to.

Having said that, I pretty much can live without friends. I don't seem to feel the loneliness that some feel here. I will go to a movie alone, or I will go to a restaurant alone, etc. I can stay at home at christmas and feel hard done by. I have actually more of a life than a lot of "social" people I know, actually, and I am not tied down to waiting on anyone to make a decision - if I want to go somewhere, I do.

It isn't an easy thing, but it is doable, with practice.

Thanks at this point in time my lack of friends isn't getting to me that much. Except for the fact that I lashed out at my dad tonight

In 2007 I wen't whithout seeing some memebers of my current social group for 6 months. So I was alone then as well. In 2007/2008 my social life improved dramaticly but then it wen't downhill again with my mates in mid to late 2008. The last time I saw my friends was on new years eve/new years day.