Making a friend and telling him I'm an Aspie

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I have no real friends and I want to befriend the person with whom I go (by bike) to school each day (because that's the time I can talk to someone personally, and he has got some interests I have too).
So my plan is to ask him to come into my house so we can do something (hmm, I don't know how to explain it better or which verb to use..), and maybe tell him about AS. I'd like to tell it, but I think NTs find it too "serious", isn't it?
The problem is, this situation (i.e. riding together daily) has been the same for about three years and I never invited him, so maybe he will think or ask something like "Why now [after three years]?".
Some more background information, he occasionally tags along with other people, who live a bit further (i.e. they take another route to school) and whom I know very well but can't be considered as friends of mine. I know them from primary school, but not the one guy.
It's quite complicated (there are many other factors, but if I tell everything it would probably be too detailed).

Should I tell him I have AS? Or have you some other advice?

I wouldn't mention AS unless it's brought up or you're questioned about something you're doing.

Only tell close friends, don't target some poor child and tell him you have autism.

Only tell your close friends.

I have a different opinion than this. I guess it depends on the individual and their situation.

If you want to become friends with this guy, I would definitely not make the first thing you guys do together a serious discussion about Aspergers; that would probably just scare him away. I would just tell him you think he's a cool dude and that you guys should chill sometime, maybe ask if he wants to see a movie. Unless he's the most popular kid in the class, he probably gets bored sometimes, just like the rest of us, and be happy just to get out of his house and do something fun.

I would save the Aspie bit until he gets more comfortable with you.

It's not a random guy. He's a relatively close friend, although only because we ride together to school and talk then a bit. The only "closer" friend I have is someone in my class.

If you feel it's appropriate then go for it. The truth is most people have no idea what aspergers is. None of my acquaintances know I have it. They just think I'm shy.