Why's it okay for girls to act self-centred, but not guys?

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i hate the laws of society, dam society makes us act all manly and stuff it sucks

when i talk about my problems hardly anyone listens so sometimes i just dont bother. ive never considered myself self-centered by nature although "autos" in autism means "self" in Greek. A person is only self centered if they dont care about anyone else except themselves, it doesnt matter if they are a girl or a guy ive met plenty of jerks from both sexes

People claim to be caring, but when you point something out that happens to be negative, then they just lose interest and turn rude sometimes.

Just one of the many reasons I have problems socializing with most NT females, and I've met males that can be just as bad. I don't have the patience for either gender's emotional nonsense, hence my very small social circle.

As far as I can tell, self-centeredness isn't appreciated in either gender.

As Sacrip pointed out, females get away with talking about themselves more because they are also usually more willing to listen and pay attention to other people as well (those that don't are soon ignored, the same as men, unless they're stunningly pretty or something).

Of all the 'sensitive' males that I know (about 5), only one will actually take the time to ask me how I'm doing, despite spending ages talking about their own life and troubles.

It seems only fair that there should be some give and take.

While I agree that it's not ok to be self-centered, some guys are actually attracted to girls like that.

My husband admitted to me that he used to like those kind of girls when he was in university. He grew out of it thank goodness.

I don't like to be constantly complaining in a self centred way to anyone in earshot. I think it's rude. But, strangely, I have found, that if you don't, whiny chicks assume you have no problems, and and that you will therefore be willing to listen to theirs.

I have also witnessed the female version of the male "pissing contest" - where chicks will try to act better or more superior to humiliate everyone else, even if only by virtue of having bought the most expensive shoes. (What is it with chicks and shoes?)

Has anyone else noticed that when a lot of women talk about their problems, they don't actually want solutions in response, only someone to sit and agree with them how awful it all is? (I speak as a female). If you see a straightforward solution to the problem and suggest it, they either ignore it and continue whining, or directly accuse you of being unsympathetic.

I know, some girls nowadays are just moan moan moan moan moan about themselves.

Of course, everybody's entitled to moan and let off steam, but there are limits!

I find guys just as self centered as women.

My dad did most of the whining while my mom had to shut up and put up with it. I have a guy friend who does the same thing. I use to listen to his problems but now it's gotten to a point where I can do nothing about his problem.

i act that way all the time

Women might moan but men can act like narcisstic as*holes.

Why it is okay?

Because many men accept and expect it as was taught to them by society.

Because I think that society views females as weak, and males are expected to stand up for them.

the reason is that society is sexist and expects everyone to act like they are supposed to act.

Its idiot people stereotyping other people

and making people angry when they assume wrong

<< when you assume, you make an ass out of u and me >>

Talk about generalizations... lol.
I do agree though, but it's not all women who do this, which not a lot of posters seemed bothered about.
I for one tend to not share my problems with anyone, and when I do, I've just found that it just highlights the problem(not as in it highlights the problem, thus making it easier to solve at all). Or in most cases. Obviously, if I were to tell the person(if it was a person) who was causing the problem about it, we might get somewhere, but even then, the latter still applies.
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