Does it bother you when people call you?

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OK, is anyone else bothered by people, especially friends and family, who want to talk to them on the phone every few hours?
My parents always want to know my whereabouts (I am 27!) and when I do not answer the phone, they get angry and accuse me of being mean. I do not mean to be mean to anyone, but I just do not want to be bothered most of the time.

I don't have a phone for just this reason. If I need to call someone, I walk the three blocks to the Minute Market. Ah. . .blessed peace.

I really hate it when I am chatting online and then all of a sudden they want to call me just so they can hear my voice and I hate beggers.

I also hate cold callers (doesn't everybody?) and I have unplugged my phone before because one time it wouldn't stop ringing and I was sick and tired of the hang up calls. Another time I just started to ignore the calls and figured if the call is that important, they will leave a message. Then after the election went by, the constant ringing stopped.

I have a great internet friend but sometimes he just calls me at the wrong time and he thinks I don't like him or something. He also says what I want to do is more important than him.

Last edited by Spokane_Girl on 10 Jan 2009, 1:58 am, edited 1 time in total.

I hate telephones. I have to use them at work, so now most of the time I can answer it and not have to wait and let it go to voicemail. I never answer my home phone and my cell phone number is only known by a few people - mostly family who don't call me to waste my time.

Isn't that what they refer to as helicopter parenting? I've read a lot about it. Its really kinda strange its just something new current youth deal with having their parents check up on them every few hours. Its all because of the invent of the cellphone. Believe me other generations did not have to report to their parents even as adults. At your age its time you stand up for yourself because you are way into adulthood. Time to tell mom and dad you're cutting the apron strings. They need to find their own hobbies and get a life and stop hovering over their adult child.

Heh I hate phone calls. I normally don't get calls but I usually get annoyed every time. Unless its a call I am expecting then normally I get a little anxious before or during the call.

I avoid communicating via phone whenever humanly possible. I am extremely visual and my auditory processing skills outright suck, so trying to communicate purely by voice is bad. I try to get people to send me e-mail instead, but alas, most people seem to prefer verbal to written communication.

I agree with you there, also if I have to ring someone I always hope that they aren't in

I don't think it is so much about parenting than it is about people always wanting to know other people's business. People in my family do it to their spouses as well as their grownup kids. When I ask them why they do it, they say they do so because they are worried about each other's safety ......it is an unsafe world.

I live abroad and when I come back home for the holidays, I feel as if I am under the microscope all the time by my parents. I have warned them repeatedly, but they won't listen. After all, they do it with each other so it seems normal to them. What has this surveillance created? Well, it forces me to lie to them about my whereabout when I am abroad. For example, I am planning a trip to Prague in a month and my parents will not know about it (if I tell them, they'd worry about my safety and wonder why I am going to Prague and who am I going to meet there.) It is all just a pain.

I don't own a phone so I rarely ever use one. Other than my work, nobody else calls me. I'll go out of my way to avoid talking on the phone if I can.

I usually let whomever is calling me go to voicemail and leave a message. That way, I know what they want and can decide if I want to call them back or not.

Yes. I don't like phones.

I don't have many people who call me (My friends mostly prefer MSN), and when they do, I usually don't mind. For some reason, I get REALLY anxious when I'm forced to call somebody and will procrastinate the call for at least a week or ask them to call me. I don't understand why this is, but I just really struggle to this. I suppose this is another reason that people don't call me all that often - I explain that I don't like phoning people and they assume it's both ways, even though I do try to explain that it's only if I have to call them

*rolls eyes* You should try to explain to your parents that you will share more about where you're going and doing if they didn't hound you so much. You need your privacy, and it's pretty hard to deal with that kind of relationship. Tell them that if this continues, you may have to cut off ties with them completely so you can LIVE your life.
My mom's pretty good when it comes to my sister - she calls her whenever, like 3-5 times a week, but since they're close, it's not a problem. I can't wait until I move out (even though I really want to move out. I'm staying home for University for financial reason - if I stay home, the money I receive from the disability people and my father will go into a savings account instead of going into food and rent. I might volunteer to help out with gas, but they're not asking much of me if I stay, which will be nice.), so I can have that sort of relationship with my mom instead of the you can't be alone ever, and the rare occasion I'm with friends I practically have to be in a large plastic bubble sort of relationship. I probably will still be babied by my mom a bit more then my sister because I'm the kid with the disorder (not that it impacts me much anymore, but that changes any mother's perspective, and my mom's no exception)

Doesn't bother me. I prefer phone over e-mail or IM.

My brother has a habit of calling when I want to watch an interesting program on TV... annoying