How would an Aspie react, think about this?

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My aspie friend met one of my NT friends and they found something in common to talk about excitedly. Thing is, this NT friend of mine has been diagnosed as having a dependent/hysteric personality. My aspie friend offered to accompany her hiking soon. This NT friend is single and just broke up with her affair with another married man (again). She is always looking out for someone to take care of her. I told my Aspie friend (a widower) to be careful in dealing with her..as I somehow observed my Aspie friend has difficulty sensing intentions. I have known this NT friend for 7 years. My Aspie friend has only met her twice. Was I right in warning my Aspie friend?

Your thoughts will be appreciated. BTW, I took the Aspie tests and I have both Aspie and NT traits.
(A bit more of the NT)

Thanks.

Yes I think you were right to warn her. I would like to have heads up too if I were with someone who was bad news. That's how I felt about my old online stalker. I just wish someone warned me about him who has spoken to him before and also had problems with him so I would see the red flags that were spelled out to me. He was very hard to get rid of and it was hell dealing with him and worrying about being online and worrying about him IMing me with a new screen name. So I had to create a new sn so I could ditch him and keep talking to my online friends without having to sign off abandoning them because of that one guy. Whenever I get a new IM, I would get anxiety inside me worrying about it was him. He IMs me occasionally using a different sn but thank god he doesn't keep going after me that same day with different screen names.

hmm.... i think he would be happier since he would be unlikely to have a relationship in any other case. besides, it seems like she would give great sex

if she manipulates him and causes him to feel bad about himself, than he should stay away.

You did the right thing.

Some years ago i liked this girl, but my friend warned about her (i were already in a relationship with the girl). I don't remember exactly what he said.
I didn't really believe him at first, but then he showed me a conversation with the girl where she was saying something about "See the facts, i love [friend name], [other friend name] and me".
I'm not saying that it has something to with your story , but anyway

Since then i've been more carefully about going into relationships.

You were definitely right to warn him. I once had this girlfriend that literally everyone warned me about. They all warned she was promiscuous and I never listened, blinded by whatever it was I was blinded by at the time. Anyway, long story short, 3 other guys got what I wasn't getting much of in that time frame. I wish I had listened then, and from that point forward I listened intently to those people.