Who wants to be your friend?

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Maybe I've asked about this before, but for those of us aspies who are young adults, who have no real friends, do you ever find that teenage girls are more likely to be social with you that people who are you own age. I've made this personal observation that girls sometimes become less friendly or socialable as they get older. Ok, I'm a guy, I'm not looking for a girlfriend, but more like a buddy because alot of my obsessions and interests are things that girls tend to be into and guys hate. I very often feel like i get creeped out by guys.

I can't say that I agree with you because it's different for me. Teenage girls want nothing to do with me, much like I want nothing to do with them. I find that older girls are more friendly with me and I have an easier time talking to them. They usually have more of a maturity level that I like. Teenage girls are just too immature and crazy in my opinion. I'm sure I could be friends with older girls if I knew how to pick up on social cues right.

I am often "friend" with people who have problems and no direction in life. I could dominate them easily and tell them what to do. They like me doing so.

I remember as a teen that the only people that wanted to be my friends were either those who were more "Spazzy" than I, or who thought that they could exploit me after they had won my confidence. Males or females; it made no difference.

I found teen girls to be rather obnoxious...at least with me. There were some acceptions and I did have one best friend for a while.

It seems to be the same thing with some women but I've found some young women around my age that're nice. Ironically they're usually introverts or not that chatty just themselves. I don't think I do so well with extraverted people. Not that I don't find them unfriendly but they're usually out there with other friends that're on the same wavelength as them.

For some odd reason, I had more "buddies" that were guys. I found guys easier to talk to than girls. Not sure why. I don't really consider myself a tomboy but I think there was less pressure in the realm of social hierarchy. I think females tend to be more competitive with other females whereas guys socialize more like a team or something close to that.

It's usually boys that I make friends with especially younger boys, usually the nerdy ones, but that's fine with me!
Also I seem to attract very extraverted, social, cool girls too, but it's mostly mini friendships when they want to talk to someone forn the sake of it or they think I'm a good listener because I'm quiet (the truth is I'm a terrible listener, shh don't tell them) I often find that these friendships with extravert girls are mostly her being bossy and dominant becuae they know I'm not.
I much prefer being friends with younger boys because I share the same interests and humour as most of them.