Unaccepting friends of best friends.

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Has anyone in here ever had a best friend who they spent time with and they accepted here? In addition, do they have friends who refuse to accept you because you're misunderstood or your friend has lost friends because they refuse to drop you?
I have had it happen to me a few times by two girls I call friends.

1) When I was a teenager, I was friends with a girl since I was 8 and we did a lot together. She even tried introducing me to her friends, who claimed to all hate me. Later on though, she grew angry with me because she was a popular girl and blamed me for loosing that popularity ( We're not friends anymore).

2) My current friend, had two friends and families who couldn't seem to accept me because I was misunderstood. At first, I thought that one of her friends liked me when she really put on a happy face and invited me regardless. I felt accepted and enjoyed her company and her. It was when she told my friend, however, that she didn't like me because she felt that I dominated the dinner conversation and that I was too bubbly.

(I am not upset about them, I just want to here your stories)

No, no, this was a long time ago but it was on my mind and I decided to see how many others can relate in here.

I can some what relate, though in the end the person that took so much time to push me down revised that I was the only one that would hang with him then I blew him off.

Oh yes, I'm sure many here can relate.

Just after I started middle school my closest friend (we visited each other often) and I drifted apart. Her new friends were the popular gangsta' type, and didn't like me because I was an awkward white nerd. It wasn't that bad though, because I made a couple new nerdish friends and my old friend wasn't in any of my classes anyway. If I had paid more attention, I would have noticed much earlier that that would happen.

Not strictly the right forum, but this seems to be partly why I haven't got anywhere in relationships with women.

Yeah. That happened to me all the time in school. I'd have friend, and she'd ditch me because her other friends thought I was a nerd or embarassing to be around. I didn't say the right things, didn't have cool kids habits, etc. Didn't help that I had to wear my brother's hand-me-downs and wore cheap ugly goggle glasses. One time I was playing with someone in front of her house, and she saw someone riding up on a bike, and she told me it was time to play hide and seek and to go hide behind a car. I hid while she talked to her other friend, the one on the bike that she saw coming. She didn't invite her friend to play with us, and I got tired of hiding and came over to them. They both ignored me, so I went home really feeling kinda mad and confused.

I've lost friends as I have gotten older. I had best friends from when I was four, their names were Sara and Stephanie but as they got older, they started to get mean to me. Didn't really stick up for me when kids be mean to me. Sara still did sometimes but she didn't stick up for me when kids start throwing pine cones over the fence at me from her yard. We also fought in school and we picked on each other. Then she didn't like me that much because I wouldn't let her pick on me. They would come over to my house just to play with my stuff and then leave. Of course when Stephanie's interest changed, she stopped coming over and stopped playing with me. Sara moved away when I was nine and came back when I was eleven. She lived in the same area but lived in another house and went to another school. Then she and her brother and their mother moved back in with their mom's parents who lived behind us.

I also had a friend named Jennifer when I was 10. She was new to my school because her family had moved from Arizona and she even invited me to her birthday and then in 1996, she started to bully me. Then in 5th grade after Christmas, her family moved to another town north of us so bye bye Jen. She said she was teaching me a lesson. I'm not sure why she changed. First she accepted me and then all of a sudden she didn't anymore. Then she would be nice to me sometimes and then get mean to me again.

I had another friend named Kelly when I was seven and eight and she was Sara's cousin. Her family had just moved in with their grandparents and Sara brought Kelly over to my house and we became friends. Then she moved when we were in second grade so we drifted apart. She was mean to me too sometimes.

I knew a girl named Theresa and she would visit our neighbors. I am not sure if she was their niece or just friends of her mother's but she and her mother would be there sometimes. Her and I became friends when I was seven. Then she and her mother stopped coming over to visit so I didn't see her again. Then the neighbors moved when I was nine. I can't remember if it was before or after school started.

I does suck when friends change and they are no longer nice anymore or sweet so they start abusing you or taking advantage of you or using you.

I had few other friends but we drifted apart when school started again when I was nine. They were in another class and hung out with other friends.


I heard it's rare for kids to remain friends and they are still friends in their adulthood.