Who am I?

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I always find that when i meet new people i am different. i always try to be like the person who i am with weither they bf of just a mate.

I have done this for so long that i dont actually know who i am.

I think maybe i am lost and need to reconnect with myself.

So i ask myself who am i?

Does anyone else have this problem or am i alone?

I guess the question is who are you when nobody else is looking? What do you think about when you can think about anything? Who do you love and who do you hate? Where do you go when you have no place to be? As much as you might want to please those around you, they don't define you, and they never can. Kind of like that Star Trek with the woman who became the ideal mate to whatever man was around her..even she became her own person after a while when she was alone.

sorry for posting as there is not much else to post to at the moment.

but i can not change how i am for people. i do not care if they like me or not. it is interesting you say you "try" to be like them. i think that indicates a level of natural disconnection you have for them and you try to pretend you are like them rather than really being like them.

maybe you should look up "mirror neurons" and see what you find. NT's have a healthy set of them and they automatically "feel" other peoples emotions.
they are lucky. (but maybe not)

i have no ability to feel what others are feeling, and so i do not try. they will either click with me otr they will go. i never try to be any way other than i am because i am tired of people who like me for reasons that are wrong. whatever they way about me is not of interest to me if they are saying stuff they imagine about me.

good. another program i had running for 3 hours is finished and i will now get back to that.

I think it's common. Since we're always looking to others trying to figure out how we're supposed to act, it's easy to get buried by what other people want you to be.