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ratsrepus
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23 Apr 2009, 3:34 pm

Hi all,

A lot of people are finding it difficult to really know what people are thinking about them. Does this nod and smile mean "I like you and really agree with what you say" or does it mean "what an idiot, make me laugh some more" ?

I find this lack of understanding of people's behavior very confusing, be it at work, when meeting people for the first time, or even with longer term friends.

Apart from asking another AS friend, or someone who dislikes you (ie will not be afraid to make you feel uncomfortable) or trying to identify your weaknesses yourself, it seems there is no easy way to find out.

I am thinking that getting anonymous feedback, like the 360 feedback reviews performed in large companies (where your boss, peers, subordinates and customers anonymously comment on your strengths and weaknesses: you only see the aggregate result, so cannot pinpoint who said what) could be a good idea. These surveys seem to foster a higher level of honesty, because of the anonymity.

I created this site (tellme360 dot com) to provide exactly this service and I hope you will find it useful:

tellme360 dot com

1. You design a questionnaire, based on existing questions (regarding your personality, strengths and weaknesses, etc.) or by adding new questions

2. You select people whose opinion will be useful to you. It is important to add not only friends, but all sort of people who know you well.

3. The site sends the questionnaire to your respondents

4. Once at least 10 people have replied, there are enough responses to provide an acceptable level of anonymity

5. You can view the anonymized results.


Try it and tell me know if it is useful.

Thanks for your help !



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23 Apr 2009, 6:28 pm

Well, i only have 6 friends so...

And i usually just ask them what they think of me. As long as the feedback is objective and has a reasoning behind it, then i can take it to heart.


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25 Apr 2009, 3:09 am

ratsrepus, I think it's an amazing tool to attach to one's Facebook account. Have you tried selling it to Facebook? Or LiveJournal, MSN chat, Yahoo Groups... Really wonderful, congrats!


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25 Apr 2009, 8:53 am

Greentea wrote:
ratsrepus, I think it's an amazing tool to attach to one's Facebook account. Have you tried selling it to Facebook? Or LiveJournal, MSN chat, Yahoo Groups... Really wonderful, congrats!


Greentea, Thanks a lot for the encouragements!

This tool is free because I think it could be useful to many people, in particular in the AS community, and have not yet thought about monetizing it.

The questionnaires are somehow basic at the moment, but anyone can contribute questions on the website to make it better! I am sure there are many more questions to ask :-)

Thanks again for your support, that's really nice.



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25 Apr 2009, 2:23 pm

I'm always surprised how such wonderful tools are free on the internet, when outside the internet one has to pay almost for the air we breathe...


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25 Apr 2009, 2:53 pm

ratsrepus wrote:
Hi all,

A lot of people are finding it difficult to really know what people are thinking about them. Does this nod and smile mean "I like you and really agree with what you say" or does it mean "what an idiot, make me laugh some more" ?

I find this lack of understanding of people's behavior very confusing, be it at work, when meeting people for the first time, or even with longer term friends.

Apart from asking another AS friend, or someone who dislikes you (ie will not be afraid to make you feel uncomfortable) or trying to identify your weaknesses yourself, it seems there is no easy way to find out.

I am thinking that getting anonymous feedback, like the 360 feedback reviews performed in large companies (where your boss, peers, subordinates and customers anonymously comment on your strengths and weaknesses: you only see the aggregate result, so cannot pinpoint who said what) could be a good idea. These surveys seem to foster a higher level of honesty, because of the anonymity.

I created this site (tellme360 dot com) to provide exactly this service and I hope you will find it useful:

tellme360 dot com

1. You design a questionnaire, based on existing questions (regarding your personality, strengths and weaknesses, etc.) or by adding new questions

2. You select people whose opinion will be useful to you. It is important to add not only friends, but all sort of people who know you well.

3. The site sends the questionnaire to your respondents

4. Once at least 10 people have replied, there are enough responses to provide an acceptable level of anonymity

5. You can view the anonymized results.


Try it and tell me know if it is useful.

Thanks for your help !




I personally would not find something like this helpful, but that's just me. I can think of three people who "know me well", but each of them only sees me in very specific, limited circumstances, and none of them has ever seen me interacting with other people (or too infrequently to answer a questionnaire). There aren't ten people in the world who know me well enough to answer questions about me, even if I was to go back to people I haven't seen in twenty years.

Also, in asking questions about what people think of me, that's like saying, "Hey, everyone, I'm really unsure of myself, and I just want to call that to your attention." That feels a little strange to me. I would not want to be around people at all if I knew they were aware of my specific insecurities.

I can see that it might be helpful for someone else, though. Someone with a wide range of people who know them.