In a dilemma about my best friend, my mum, holidays and love

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OK where do I start...

Yesterday I went to my best friend's house (he is an AS-er, that comes into it later) anyway, when I was on the way home in the car his mum asked me if I ever wanted to go on holiday with their family one time, which I think is a marvelous idea, and she also asked me if I got a passport! Now that means they have big ventures in mind. Anyway, him and his mum were suggesting it and i was like wow, this is great and shows just how close me and my friend are. So I told my mum that night and she pulled this concerned face so I was like "what's up with you now??" and she said "who usually goes with them?" and I said their family including grandads, uncles etc. And she said it wasn't the holidays that were bothering her it was the sleeping arrangements, and she's worried that something rude would happen between me and my friend, which won't happen most probably but she's still paranoid.

And that's where the problem is. My mum is so paranoid and is against the idea of anything happening between me and this friend, and I don't see the problem, I don't think much willl happen but if it did nothing bad would come out of it. Anyway, my mum knows I "fancy" him, which I don't and haven't for a while, the truth is I have fallen in love with him. And if there was a time when me and this friend ended up telling eachother we were in love, then things started progressing, and we ended up waking up next to eachother, not saying we would do that because to be honest if I even kissed him on the cheek he'd be like wtf and pull away. But I'm more bothered about what my mum thinks, because I have a feeling that when I start college, I might have a boyfriend and he'd be the opposite of my best friend, really sociable, good at sports, organised etc and I ended up doing rude things to this boyfriend my mum wouldn't care as much. She has this big problem with me suggesting I went out with my friend, she wouldn't mind if I did but constantly tries to disuade me. She says if I ever stayed with him long terms our lives would be a mess, because with him being more "severe" in his ways nothing would be organised because of our executive dysfunctions and that. And she constanly tells me about the bad points of AS/AS relationships, and if I ever even hint that want to be with my best friend in the long term she keeps having a go at me saying it would go horribly wrong and I'm better off with a "normal" boy, stupid cow. And to be honest, at this point in my life I coouldn't think of anyone I'd rather be with, even if we do drive eachother mad a times, he is everything I could wish for.

So basically, I want to go on holiday one time with my best friend and his family, my mum is paranoid is about things going much further, I don't see the problem and she also hates the idea of me ever being with my friend just because he is also an aspie.

the only problem i see here is your mom trying to change your mind.
you already know what you want just ignore her negativity.

if i were you i would probably just walk away evertime she started tell you what you should or should not do.(not saying you should do this).