Who and for how long do you make friends

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I often make friends with people who are not very clever, don't know why but I have never been able to sustain a friendship with someone who is mentally strong whereas mentally weaker people either don't mind my strangeness so much or are nicer about it. To be honest I have very few friends that I keep for more than a few months if a year.

Forming friendships is difficult. Maintaining friendships is virtually impossible (for me anyway )
I dunno how you're meant to do it.

Dumb people like me because they think I'm dumb too. Maybe I am!

I think that may be my attraction to them, on some subjects I am an equal or they not greatly superior, in comparison to other people so I find it easier to pass time with them

I seem to attract aggressive friends which doesn't last long.

Other people seem to ditch me....or at least that's how I look at it. In fact, they usually change their tune all together once they know more about myself. I hate em'.....

I've only had 2 friendships that have lasted and the friends I have seem to be the type of people who do their own thing yet we usually keep in contact. It's funny how some people are when it comes to relationships of any sort. Some people will be there for you through thick and thin and others just come and go. These experiences have taught me a lot about myself in how I treat people.

Anyway, they don't last long. The longest ones I've had were probably near a year and that was it. They decided to lose all contact with me and make me out to be a nuisance.

I have trouble keeping friends. I can usually make friends, though. Lately I am down to one, and she is starting to distance herself from me. I know the signs, and I am trying not to mind too much. It hurts, though. I have even tried to make friends on WP. They start out being friendly, writing back and forth, and then -gone without a trace.

I seem to attract all the weirdos/nerds/gamers/aspies and make friends with them. I have gone through loads of mini friendships and only a few have lasted long term, long term for me is anything past 2/3 years.
I seem to be really good at meeting people, like anything past the first few days of knowing them, but after that it gets tricky, because it's hard to know when we've made friends or whether we're still just acquaitences so if they don't make it obvious I tend to let them dissapear, I wish I didn't. Also if I don't see someone very frequently I have a habit of not seeing them because I'm so used to the other person doing all the work in the friendship so I get completely lost and I'm too shy to arrange to meet in places, so I'm really agonizing about leaving school for that reason.

I tend to make friends with the "misfits" who have been rejected by everyone else. Sometimes those last, but usually they don't.

I typically find that when I join in a new situation, people are OK with me and I have friends (insta-friends) for about 3 weeks (depends on the new situation, sometimes it only lasts 2-3 days). Then everyone bonds and I'm left back in the dust.