Getting to know someone (You should read this!)

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I think that love can happen to anyone, even aspies. And they said it was hard to get a date! I used to have a "girlfriend", at least we thought we were going out. But the moral is don't jump into a relationship or ask people out before you're ready or before you get to know them. So here's the scoop:
It all started at Camp Kodiak, which is in my opinion the best camp ever for Aspies. (Last year I had three other aspies in my cabin!) It was at the beach near the swim dock. There was a girl with long brown hair whose name was Brigit (I know the spelling seems incorrect, but that's how she spells it. ). I asked her out to the weekly dance about 30 seconds after I met her. She said, "Oh my God! Of course I will!" and she ran off to tell her cabin. But she had an evil girl in her cabin, Rebecca, who tried to break us up! But it didn't work. And so the weekly dances came along. That's when I got my first kiss of many from her. We were talking to Lauren, another girl in her cabin. We asked her if she liked Matthew, a boy in my cabin. She said, "Look, just because I kissed him once doesn't mean I like him!" I frowned and said, "I think that behavior is inappropriate!" Brigit just looked at me and said, "Oh, really!" Then she kissed me! "Oh, my! And I thought that behavior was inappropriate!"
The girls giggled. Lauren said, "Are you going to kiss her now?" "Well, I don't think I should do it right now." Brigit pouted. "Oh, what the heck." So I kissed her back.
That was the beginning of 3 wonderful years of happiness. Brigit even planned a fake wedding at the point for us. We did that Lady and the Tramp kind of kissing, with Fruit by the Foot instead of spaghetti.
But then, just last summer, when I just got to camp Kodiak, we hugged and Brigit said, "Chris, I've been thinking. Maybe we're not ready for this kind of a relationship."
I replied, "But you were ready when you were ten!"
"No, I wasn't. I wasn't as mature then as I am now. We can still be friends, but Chris, I'm 12 and your 13. We're just too young. Maybe next year."
I completely agree with what she said. It was so rash of me to ask her out at such an early age. She wasn't ready, and neither was I.

Brigit lives in Toronto. She turned 13 on November 21, 2004. She is now going to a school for kids with mental problems like me and her.
We still keep in touch.
I was lucky to have a girl say yes just thirty seconds after getting to know her.

I have met another friend who goes to my school. Her name is Courtney. She is a Neurotypical, but she has many things in common with me, including cringing at the word "Ain't". But I've learned my lesson. I've only met her a week ago, and I'm going to wait til I get to know her before I ask her out.

Get to know someone before you ask them out. I know I'm being repetitive, but this essential for a relationship and I need to get the point across to you.

But once you get to know them, don't be afraid to ask them out. This applies to both males and females.

Thank you for reading this post. I'm so glad I have people who will listen to, or in this case, read what I have to say.

Yours truly,

Christopher Grills

P. S. If you have questions about stuff like this, feel free to post them. After all, to every question there is an answer.

lol! that was funny!

I'm not making fun of you or anything, but that was a great story and it just made me feel like laughing.


Archmage

how cute!! ! very true though

Did you ever talk about sex with her in the relationship?

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Letsgoblues, some people value companionship higher than sex in relationships, actually the majority do if they have that person's feelings at heart.

I didn't know much about sex, but last summer we did talk a teeny bit about girls periods. But, I'm only 13 and I shouldn't be talking about stuff like that. But I do know this: Brigit didn't have very much of a personal space bubble. I'm a very, very, very, very, VERY touchy-feely person. I just love physical contact. I need physical contact. I was touching her a lot. At camp, I touched people a lot. In fact, when my counselor lost his voice from yelling, he had a memo pad that he communicated with. Some papers included "I can't talk" Yes" "No" "Please repeat that" and "Christopher Grills, stop touching people!" And he was right.

Let'sgo, I've learned a good lesson. Don't talk about sex with girls unless you know them VERY well and if they're comfortable with it. Brigit and I, We're very good friends. Just not enough for a relationship. But we still talk. But I avoid talking about sex because it makes both of us uneasy.

Yours Truly,

Christopher Grills

Oh, by the way. In the camp production, Brigit and I both had principal roles in the production for the last two years. In the first one, it was in the middle of our relationship. It was like the music man. We fell in love in the play and we had a kiss. (It was censored, unfortunately. The director said that if we did kiss he would throw things at us.)

The second one was more subtle. It was sort of an Island adventure. We were brother and sister.

Once when we were backstage, I was playing piano, but she wasn't listening. She found an extravagant scarlet dress. And said, "My, my, my. Isn't this pretty? And it would look simply stellar on you, Christopher."
"That's nice." I said and continued playing. "Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat?!" I yelled.
She stuffed the dress over my head, took me out to where the counselors were having a meeting and said, "Hey, everyone! Look at what Christopher is wearing!
All the counselors took out their cameras and snapped a picture of her leaning on me with me wearing the dress.

Yours truly,

Christopher Grills

P.S. Asking questions is a great way to find things out!