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There is a fat bully at my school called Simon and he bullies me, and when I tell the teacher he denies it. Any help?

Superdan

Just walk up to him sometime and kick him in the balls for no reason, sure your going to get in trouble but he will probably leave you alone after that. Someone else posted something similar I believe, basically show no fear, if people think you don't give a f**k then they tend to not mess with you. This has at least worked for me in the past. Good luck.

actually read the thread below this one for bwetter advise.

What if he doesn't leave me alone after I kick him in the balls .
Thanks
Superdan

Then he is not human. The pain of a well placed kick is enormous.

In my elementary school I always told the teachers.
While they'd not always be in the mood to discipline it added up.
Works only if you don't mind being loathed as the class tattletale.

In high school, bullying was more subtle, and I'd just stand there confused, depriving the bullies of their fun.

Since the contact I had with these bullies were usually in classes with a large number of paras, the paras disciplined them and took notes. Finally because of the schools strike policy, one of them got severely disciplined. Next time I saw him, he ran past me quickly and kept his eyes on the ground.

As for a kick in the reproductive organs, I tried that on my little bother once (the only person aside from a younger cousin) to physically assault me. Didn't work.

I'd say talk to your teachers.
If you have a good teacher they'll be more than willing to help.

Bullies only bully because they're not being bullied back.
They need the same treatment back,to show them that it won't be tolerated.

See if there is a buddy system set up in the school-older students who will accompany another,and won't let the person be abused by bullies.

Get parents involved is another option,especially if the teachers are not taking it seriously.
They would need to speak to the year head or headmaster I think.

Thanks everyone who replied. I will let you know what happens.

Superdan

The big fat bully left me alone today, maybe he knew he was going to get a kick in the balls

Superdan

I told my parents when I was being bullied when the teacher wouldn't listen. They went in after school but the bullying continued. The best was still to come though. My mum put me on the waiting list for a grammar school and I've not been bullied since, although there is the odd bit now and then, but I can ignore that.

Anyone wants any tips? Just ignore them. They bully you because they want you to respond. If there is no response then they won't be able to anything (much).

I wouldn't bother kicking people in the balls anyway! I wasn't one for breaking school rules!

If you can manage it, one way of freaking out bullies is to give em a big grin as though you're amused by what they're saying to you.

Personally I wouldn't advocate physical violence as it only leads to escalation of one type or another.

Remember you're absolutely not alone and we're here for you.

One thing that I have found that helps with some bullies is to give them a compliment, even if you don't mean it. Try to make it as sarcastic as possible, however.

The two strategies that I've found work best for me:

Be really really nice to the bully. Eventually he/she stops and acts nice back. Perhaps this doesn't always work.

Stare and give "evil eye" and whatnot. Basically show that you are willing to get into a fight if provoked but willing to let the other back down and leave you alone. This works fairly well, but the problem is that it has to be done nonverbally (if you say it out loud the guy might think its a threat and refuse to back down). I just seem to have a knack for it.

About four boys were bullying me around two-and-a-half years ago. It was hell. They'd hit me, push me, make fun of me, and the art teacher would only move me to another seat (which didn't work, as we were working on a project and they'd just follow me to the new seat) and the counselor would just lecture me on missing class time and that my odd behaviors were the cause of it (somehow, she "reasoned" from here that because of this, a punishment wouldn't be warranted).

BTW, these were boys all ganging up on a girl and they were very sick perverts who were chauvinists, but at least they were "normal," which is the magic recipe for protection by the school system. All the counselor cared about were my grades, but once my grades dropped due to the bullying, she did nothing. Also, I tried all of the above things mentioned. Ignoring, telling, physically fighting back, verbally retorting, acting nice--when the authority didn't do anything, I tried everything I could, even trying to find a common ground for a less insulting conversation.

I have no advice on what to do, because in my experience, all efforts have been futile.

Did they know you have AS?

The school system that I hailed from was run by incompetents who were always afraid of disciplinary action because if you've ever seen many of these people's parents, they always have this "my child would never do that!" attitude.
As a result, I was more or less on my own when it came to dealing with thugs. I figured out that the lack of emotional response could be a bit unsettling to them, probably due to their NT natures that hinge on such response. If you acted mad, they would just laugh, but it was a different matter entirely when you viewed them as irrelivant animals undeserving of one's attention.
This of course didn't always work, but things settled down once I hit high school. It's been almost half a decade since I've had to resort to violence.

My advice? DON'T GO VIOLENT ON HIM.

TRUST ME! I tried that back in 6th grade, I held it in all year, then I stabbed some kid in the shoulder with a dull pencil, barely left a mark -- now I've got a record and I was laughed at for the subsequent 3 years. Trust me. Deal with it in the sane way - report him not to the teacher, but to higher authorities, meaning the prinicipal.

If that doesn't work, which it probably won't, find his number in the school directory and call his parents. Either you or your parents should talk to his parents and adress the problem directly. Worked for me.

However, in my case, the bullying eventually got so bad, we moved. So if it gets that bad and that wide-spread, you may want to consider that heavy of a step...

But first, try dealing with the problem yourself. Trust me, it might work.