jokes and appropriate "comebacks"

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fasteddie
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14 Mar 2006, 11:42 pm

I should tell you about a unique problem I have in my office. I am a male but work in an office with three women, and I get besieged with comments from visitors like "how do you put up with all these women", or "here's something for all you women..... and men", just to name a couple. There are hundreds of these things I am told, and though I can identify them as being humor, I am terrible at knowing exactly what I should say. Sometimes I just make a silly smile or giggle. I'm always scared to try to make a smart remark, or "comeback". I have attempted this, and sometimes I get loud laughter, but this sometimes how people react when something shocking is said, be it bad or good. Oddly enough, there was another young male worker in the office who faced the same thing, and I noticed his response was often an outright admission of failure, saying "I can't think of anything smart to say", or "I can't think of a comeback". Of course matters are made only much worse when I have AS. What do you people think about this?



Emettman
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15 Mar 2006, 2:57 am

Me too. I'm outnumbered seven to one.

We've been together for years, so we've acclimatised now, but I did deliberately plan attitudes, strategies, even possible witticisms in advance. Contingency planning.

"Don't you feel the odd one out?" "I've threatened them with wearing a kilt, to fit in..."




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aspiesmom1
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15 Mar 2006, 11:11 am

The problem is, anything you respond with could get you into trouble with the women you work with and you probably don't want that. Sexual harassment takes all kinds of forms, and you can't know what will set one person off. The customers can pretty much speak freely, but you should be careful.

I would stick to a brief smile, and nothing more than perhaps they are great to work with - something positive that would apply no matter what their gender.

It's not the time or the place to get your wit off the ground.


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