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20 Apr 2011, 3:32 am

My parents were crazy they taught me wrong things
They taught me violence, arrogance, bad words, hatred, isolation,
Also my mom is too dumb anyone can fool her she also suffers from low self esteem.

How do i unlearn all the stuff they taught me also since im AS
I cant socialise so less chances of having NT friends and learning
good social behaviour and developing self esteem.



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20 Apr 2011, 5:26 am

You could start by practicing here--be nice to folks and help them out--especially when you don't have to. You might start by welcoming folks to the forum.



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20 Apr 2011, 5:39 am

would any NT do that?



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20 Apr 2011, 5:45 am

Maybe find examples of people you think have better qualities than your current role models, and then behave more like them. Doesn't have to be someone you hang out with.


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20 Apr 2011, 5:48 am

Moog wrote:
Maybe find examples of people you think have better qualities than your current role models, and then behave more like them. Doesn't have to be someone you hang out with.

i hardly have anyone to hang out with



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21 Apr 2011, 8:18 am

This is one of the core skills in DBT. You've taken the first steps; realizing that what you were taught isn't rational or correct and want to learn different, more healthy behaviors and attitudes.

I think you have to do just what you're doing. Learn a substitute behavior or thought patterns and use those in place of the ones you've been brought up on. It'll take time to master but you've already come this far. The hardest part was to identify the maladaptive behaviors in the first place.

I salute you :salut:


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21 Apr 2011, 9:46 am

MasterJedi wrote:
This is one of the core skills in DBT. You've taken the first steps; realizing that what you were taught isn't rational or correct and want to learn different, more healthy behaviors and attitudes.

I think you have to do just what you're doing. Learn a substitute behavior or thought patterns and use those in place of the ones you've been brought up on. It'll take time to master but you've already come this far. The hardest part was to identify the maladaptive behaviors in the first place.

I salute you :salut:

What is DBT?

I want to learn substitute behaviour but i will need company of NT's and also isolation wont do me good i will need
some social contact

Overall i have decided to keep simple behaviour, not chase people, keep to myself and monitor my behaviour.

Thank you for the salute.......i need to salute myself its been a hard journey
:)