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14 Mar 2014, 10:34 am

I don't know if I am trans but I wanted to be a female when I was twelve it was hard keeping it to my self



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14 Mar 2014, 10:47 am

Welcome Gardenia_guy

When you say it was hard keeping it to yourself, does that mean you informed others, or others figured it out and you didn't try and cover it?


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17 Mar 2014, 11:23 am

HI WHAT I MEANT PEOPLE SUSPECTED I WAS GAY BUT THEY DIDNT KNOW I WANTED TO BE FEMALE I WAS TEASED CALLED NAMES IT WAS PRETTY CONFUSING



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17 Mar 2014, 12:36 pm

gardenia_guy wrote:
HI WHAT I MEANT PEOPLE SUSPECTED I WAS GAY BUT THEY DIDNT KNOW I WANTED TO BE FEMALE I WAS TEASED CALLED NAMES IT WAS PRETTY CONFUSING


Same thing happened to me. As a child, the teasing hurt. There are few adults in my life who bully. It amuses me that others still think I'm gay, when instead, I'm actually mtf trans.


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17 Mar 2014, 2:16 pm

They say gender identity for trans starts out at a very young age often. I think it's partly due to us having Aspergers, that our feelings for gender identity happen later on in life. So I would suggest waiting until your parents die before making your decision. Whether or not to undergo pointless surgery to make you "look" like a girl or just ignore it all together and hope technology in the future will make a true transition biologically. Me, I'm more on the latter, just waiting until technology improves or not, and letting my parents lives be my own timer. If nothing improves by then, I will take my own life.


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17 Mar 2014, 2:39 pm

Prism wrote:
They say gender identity for trans starts out at a very young age often. I think it's partly due to us having Aspergers, that our feelings for gender identity happen later on in life. So I would suggest waiting until your parents die before making your decision. Whether or not to undergo pointless surgery to make you "look" like a girl or just ignore it all together and hope technology in the future will make a true transition biologically. Me, I'm more on the latter, just waiting until technology improves or not, and letting my parents lives be my own timer. If nothing improves by then, I will take my own life.


living for other people and hiding who you are is awful. When I came out as lesbian my parents rejected me BUT my life became open and much better.


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17 Mar 2014, 4:08 pm

GivePeaceAChance wrote:
Prism wrote:
They say gender identity for trans starts out at a very young age often. I think it's partly due to us having Aspergers, that our feelings for gender identity happen later on in life. So I would suggest waiting until your parents die before making your decision. Whether or not to undergo pointless surgery to make you "look" like a girl or just ignore it all together and hope technology in the future will make a true transition biologically. Me, I'm more on the latter, just waiting until technology improves or not, and letting my parents lives be my own timer. If nothing improves by then, I will take my own life.


living for other people and hiding who you are is awful. When I came out as lesbian my parents rejected me BUT my life became open and much better.


Of course it's awful, but unless one wants to be selfish and has a large enough self-esteem to make it out on their own when rejected, it's pretty much the only way.


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