How to be gay?

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Okay, so in a nutshell, I don't know how to act now. Recently figured out I'm most likely bisexual, but should this change any way I act? If and when I tell my friends and such, should I begin commenting on cute guys I see?

Also, how am I to actually meet other gay/bi people, short of straight out asking, how would I know if they are also gay/bi?

Well, realising your sexual orientation doesn't mean you have changed, does it? Is it not more that you're the same person you were before, but you know more about that person?

I know there are stereotypes when it comes to sexuality, but there are no specific behaviours for gay or bisexual people as opposed to straight people. Just be yourself.

I'm not sure how to figure out a person's orientation without asking, but have you tried LGBT social groups, bars/clubs/pubs or events? You might also find people online via dating sites or forums.

You don't have to change, no. If you're comfortable, you can talk about cute guys the same as you'd talk about cute girls.

You are what you are. You don't, all of a sudden, transform into something else once you find out you're other than hetereosexual.

Just like your appearance doesn't all of a sudden change once you go from 17 years, 364 days to 18 years old.

I like the approach of medium steps where I can observe an effect, neither baby steps nor giant steps.

for example, I think with my next relationship, I'm going to go with the information that I like predictable touch and elaborate fantasy. It's an experiment. It may or may not fully work out. And it may not be the only thing I like.

It should only change the way you act if you haven't been acting like yourself. If you've been yourself, however you are, then why should you change any?

If you decide to be "out," then you might change some by saying things that indicate you're attracted to some guys, but otherwise nothing much should change unless you've been suppressing who you really are and want/need to change how you act.

Up to you whether you comment on guys or not. Also make sure to know your audience.. i.e. make sure your friends aren't going to freak out if you are transparent about things like that. If they're actually your friends they shouldn't be bothered by comments like that should you choose to make them.

The internet is your friend. Post personal ads/join dating websites/use phone apps to meet other like minded/sexed people. Takes all the guess work out of randomly meeting people in public when your an email each other and see if you're a potential match before meeting.