Sometimes I wonder if the transphobes were right all along

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When trans women talk down to me, pretend to know more about my situation than I, and proceed to trash me, it makes me wonder about the viability of this community.

It makes me wonder if the transphobes were right all along..

I don't think the transphobes are right. No way.

Other trans women probably don't understand you or empathize your views. Non autistic people usually can't understand autistic peoples' viewpoints. In my experience they usually think I am wrong on almost everything, they don't want to hear what I have to say, and they find my personality creepy and highly annoying. Because of this, normally I find myself either being quiet and all alone, or at odds with people who can't understand me, them getting angry with me, and wanting me to shut up or else they'll lash out and belittle me for continuing to express my views.

I am not claiming that this (your unique, different autistic personality and thoughts) is the reason they talk down to you, but it might be a good portion of it.

No, the transphobes aren't right. But it is true that often those non-autistics in the trans* community don't understand trans* autistics. And it's also true that there is a lot of neurosis and bad drama and demands for super-conformity in much of the trans* community, too, because too many there are still hugely wounded and hurting, and they are rude, dismissive, even hostile, etc (to many) because they haven't healed or made peace with themselves, their transness, how crappy the world views/treats them (us), and so on.

I've often found it's still painful, but less painful to be trans* with minimal contact with the trans* community as it stands now.

I have met two transexuals in my life.

One was very nice and the other was a total jerk.

I figure some people really are born with brain parts of both genders just as intersexuals are born with the genitals of both genders and we should show all such people sympathy.

I also figure some people are damaged goods who need years of therapy.



Whatever the case talking down to someone is just rude.