Attending my 10-year HS reunion

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My 10th year high school reunion is next year (where and when, I do not know at this time), and I have had thoughts about NOT being there at all. Because, I may be in Los Angeles at that time next year, and I probably won't be able to see them. That, and I feel like I just want to erase all traces of my life in my current hometown upon my move there; also, I have given some serious thought of legally changing my name, as another step to having a fresh start in L.A.

One of my old grade school friends said: "This is your 10 year reunion. Why would you not go? These are your high school memories and connections, people you haven't seen in probably ten years, even if you didn't like them. Go. You won't want to regret the choice not to, later."

What do you think I should do, guys?

Lots of people don't go. I sure as hell wouldn't. Your friend might have a good point there, but only you can know whether it's relevant to you. Do whatever you're more comfortable with.

Says someone who was popular in high school, and thinks "bullying" is something having to do with bulls.

But for the rest of us, high school reunions are a waste of time. It's yet another opportunity to see people who were doing better than you when they were 16, to rub it in your face, be it with their money, trophy spouse, or something else. And if they still lack a conscience, to resume their bullying ways. I never went to my 10-year high school reunion, and don't plan to go to the 20-year one, either. In fact, if the school gets sold off and torn down, I'll be in the front row with a video camera.

That's a hard one.

I decided to bite down my hatred of the past and attend my 5 year reunion a few years ago.
When we got to town, I was amazed how many folks had never left. Most everyone still seemed to be living with their parents and maybe still going to school, maybe not.
One noteworthy item... not one single person asked me what I was doing. Not one. I asked everyone what their lives were like now. Nada in return.
Otherwise, it was an okay experience.
Oh, for the record, I had a house and a family and had been in a desk job in a new city and state for over 3 years at that point, which NO ONE would have expected from me, given my youth, heck, even my own family was surprised.
(with my medical problems, I will probably die young, I didn't waste years 'finding myself' or partying... though I occasionally wish I'd have been able to)

My 10 year reunion I had to miss. It was at a more expensive venue and there was an open bar, and I was pregnant. I told my husband it would be okay to go, but, I couldn't do it sober. At any rate, I was also working full time and finally finishing up my Bachelor's degree, so, I would have had to REALLY want to go to force myself to make that trek.

Now? Everyone has joined facebook. I can see who grew up well and whose life went off the rails and see all of their adorable kids or exciting travel. I'm torn on whether I'd go to a future reunion because my curiosity can be quenched right from the comfort of my computer.

Reunions are only good for two general purposes....

1. To meet up with people you knew that you want to see again.

2. To show off how "well" you've done since graduation.

I had pretty much no friends in high school. My 10-year reunion had me with no job or career and back in college in the effort to build one. My 20-year reunion had me stuck in a secretarial job...going nowhere...after having a college degree and law degree under my belt.

While I doubt everyone else was a success story, I don't feel like justifying why my life has turned out so poorly every time I'm asked, "How are you doing?"

i'd say, only go if you're sure you will have some regret. but i don't think you will.

i still have a year left until i graduate, but if i decided to go, i'd probably just show up, stand in a corner with drink in hand, stare at everyone, and leave after 15 minutes.

I wouldn't go if you are planning on start a new life.

My 25 year was last friday. Just like half of my senior year, I did not show up. It was fun. I would do it again like that. I paid my 20$ entry fee, and stayed at home to work on a car. if I went, I'm sure it would be like a game of name that guy I want to punch, and that girl I was oblivious to. Don't even know why I was on the roster. I went to night school, and gragatated a year and a half later. Technically I have 2 diplomas. They even called my name at the gradgatation ceremony?

Ooh, I forgot, this isn't about me. If you want to go, then go. They are usually pritty fun, unless you have some negative emotions about it.

Given the choice I would rather pay a visit to the abyss than go to a reunion of my school year.