LGBT Older Virgins? 25+

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Are any of you LGBT, etc. 25 or up, and still a virgin? I am. Because of my problems, I'm still a virgin at 32. I feel that being a lesbian makes it even harder for me to ever find a relationship or have sex because I live in an area where there are not a lot of gay people and it's very hard to talk to people seeing as how I also have social anxiety.
Btw, I will only have sex once in a long term, committed relationship, anyway.

I was just wondering if I'm the only one in this situation.

I am demsexuel/boarderline-ansexuel (but not member of the LGBT) but I am still a virgin as 31 years old. But I am not ashmed of it

I'm not ashamed, really, either. Just hoping I don't have to be a virgin forever because I would like to meet someone and have a relationship.

What is demsexual or ansexual? I've never heard of either before. Sorry.

I was also born in 1982, btw

you can get a short version from me.
demsexual: attracted to the other sex but not on the physical level, only mental.
ansexual: not attraced eather of the 2 sex's.

I am not that much atraced to the other sex and when I am it is to ther personal of the other person and not the look of that person

Ahh. Are you maybe misspelling those words? Ansexual should be asexual and I think you mean demisexual when you say demsexual. I have heard of demisexual and asexual before, but not ansexual and demsexual which is why I thought they were different things.

I fooled around with guys and a few ladies when I was in my 20's and 30's. I didn't have actual sex until I was 39. Up till now it was my one and only sexual experience. Everything after that was just fooling around. So I'm a virgin when it comes to me and women and did "it" once with a guy when I was 39.

I Am

I'm 31 despite my screen name. I do mess with black magic and channeling and my guide is 80 years old and has 4 wives. I do not wish to have 4 wives, just someone that can handle what I really am. For someone who is super religious and thinks that being a virgin is the highest form of life it is something to celebrate. Well, I am human and I want to go straight to hell. How to do I find what I want and that is a man that will not try to rape the purity of this young boy only 31. I know I live in a modern Roman Empire where old men rape young boys like me, but damn, I'm over 30, am I yet a man to not be eaten by geezers at the bar?

I have actually gotten off once, but the fact was I was dreaming of much younger meat on my altar than the 69 year old sugar daddy I had at the time. I hate it when the only thing on a guys mind is sex when mine is so cultured and thinking about everything but sex. Yeah humans have filthy minds, but does it all have to be sex, why sex? There is so much more with over 2,000 years of magical history with the Greeks, Romans and even the modern wizards living today to learn from.

I'm 25 and still a virgin, and I recently came out as LGBT (as in, the past couple of years). It's been difficult trying to figure out the dating piece, on top of discovering the fact that I'm gay and trans. I don't think you're the only one in this situation. I also would ideally like to have sex with someone with whom I've gotten to know well. I'm still trying to figure out this part of my life, and hopefully I'll find my way lol.

I am 40, never had much success with relationships. I wrecked my only relationship via my autistic qualities because I was not aware of my social deficits, and how bad my sensory overload can get, among things. Things do not work with most people, they are too incompatible with my eccentricity, my long list of autistic faulty traits, my unconformity and my odd orientation. And I am usually too incompatible with their neurotypical behavior, adherence to gender and personality stereotypes and mainstream behavior, and causing sensory overload episodes with their equivalent of fun (parties and clubs are too much sensory overload, for example).

I don't seem to fit in any sexuality box. I think I am bi-ish or pan-ish (something in between them -ish) attracted, but close-ish to asexual (I dread sensory overload, bullying and abuse, getting STDs, and my libido usually does not function like it used to, and not as interested, disillusioned) and I don't trust people easily so it is hard to get anything started. These days I sometimes have mild crushes or arousals but don't pursue it for a number of reasons, mainly knowing or assuming there will be incompatibility, and realizing that it probably wont be worth the astronomical amount of effort required to pursue and maintain and not wreck. I guess I am strange because get turned on or aroused by other things than humans: weird stuff like aircraft, mechanical things and science stuff, or for no apparent reason at all.

A relationship virgin, perhaps, having only sorta dated someone for a few weeks when I was ~18 & had some fwb's over the years.. otherwise I've had an active sex life, just not a relationship. Currently looking to change that and find someone to date w/ the end goal being ltr.

Anyways, that's not why I'm posting. I just wanted to say.. Move! If you live in an area with very few gay people? move! You are not a tree. You're not rooted into the ground. Move somewhere else and be happier. I highly recommend any large port city as they'll very likely have large gay populations. I'm very blessed to be in the suburbs of the city with the largest gay population in the country, so meeting other homos isn't difficult in the least bit. It's meeting the *right* homo that's likely to prove challenging. (But nothing worth doing is easy, so it'll work out alright!)