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Has anybody had success with relationships?

I'm a 24 year old guy. I'm currently studying Biomedical Sciences, I exercise everyday and I can speak & read Mandarin; I'm told these are all good things that should work well for me with dating but I am single and I have no idea how to even go about chatting to guys I like in a manner that suggests I have an attraction towards them (without directly telling that person which never worked for me in the past).

I don't understand when I'm being flirted with (and often regard someone having an interest as threatening for some reason). If I decide I like a guy I become (what I feel is) somewhat obsessed and clingy, whilst disliking those feelings at the same time; i.e. I want to be hugging and sleeping in the same bed as him but when it comes to it I feel somewhat uncomfortable - the feelings only seem to come from something I think I'm supposed to want... I'm unsure. Regardless, I can never seem to make anything work and if I develop an attraction then my studies and sleep begin to fail.

I feel almost entirely hopeless in the whole matter but that doesn't seem to stop me.

I've recently started to like a guy and I don't know what I'm supposed to do to make it work, or at the very least go about the entire situation without coming across as obsessed. He knows I have Asperger's but I don't think he entirely knows what it entails, or maybe that's just an excuse I'm trying to make up for myself...

Any help in this field would be greatly appreciated.

hello Alexander welcome to WP first of all, remember that he is not up on a pedestal, he's just another human just like yourself despite the shine you see on him. remember that he is fallible and can possibly hurt you, and for this reason let your frontal lobes call the shots until he proves himself worthy of you. only then let your heart have its way.

Sounds like you likely know this guy in real life.. which is great, but will be more challenging to communicate things I'm sure.

My suggestion was going to be to meet/flirt/chat with guys online. We're all so much better at communicating via text than in person, so use your strengths. I've met many gay guys over the years like this. Chat online, then meet in person and see if you click.

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i had to flat out tell my wife that i was into her when we first met. i tried flirting as well. i am autistic so sometimes the best thing is just to be forward. you hit me up through email if you'd like to chat sometime. being in the lgbt and being autistic or have aspergers is VERY difficult