Straight people drive me crazy

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I've been so annoyed at straight people lately. I can't expect them to know my sexuality, but I do expect some good behavior when they know it. When people find out my sexuality they often try to push me to be straight. That literally drives me crazy.

It triggers OCD thoughts. My sexuality OCD can get very bad. OCD has convinced me that I'm asexual or just going through a phase.

A lot of the time I just play back all of the times they try to turn me straight. It literally makes me scream. I also feel very disgusted. Right now the idea of being in a straight relationship makes me feel disgusted.

I still don't know if I'm truly gay or just going crazy because of stupid straight people. I want to be truly gay because the idea of being straight or bi disgusts me right now. Since I'm a girl I'm scared that I just bi/fluid.

One thing that drives me crazy is some of the advice people give me. No one believes I'm gay(including me) so I just stay closeted. Being closeted is making me go kind of crazy. When I mention this problem people tell me to just be who I am.

I don't actually think that works. When I act like myself I just look like a straight girl who's open to being hit on. If I say I'm gay I have to deal with stupid straight people and my OCD acting up. It's pretty much impossible to "be who I am". The best thing I can do is act like I'm not interested in anyone and act oblivious around guys who hit on me.

I'll tell you a little secret that very very very few LGBTQ individuals seem to know, ok?...ready?

We straight people DO NOT EVEN care what your orientation is.

We don't want you to tell us .....at all.

When we straight people talk about the LGBTQ community our biggest complaint and usually our ONLY complaint is that you insist on telling us about your sexual orientation.

We NEVER EVER go around telling anyone that we are straight and we don't understand why you insist on telling us about your orientation.

Most of the straight people I have met, even those who aren't particularly fond of LGBTQ and who don't have any of them as friends....think that LGBTQ individuals should be able to do anything they want without any restrictions...they just don't want to hear about it and they regard your sex life as being private just like their own sex life is private.

Now before you think that I am just another st8 as*hole male, you should know that most of my friends are LGBTQ...in fact my best friend EVER!! !! !....is trans!! !! I care about her deeply.

My friends will tell you that I have given them total unconditional acceptance.

I don't care what they do sexually, if I like them...then I like them...SO has nothing to do with it.

All the best to you

I don't actually talk much about my sexuality in real life. I think straight people talk way more about their sexuality than most LGB people. You just hear more from the flamboyant types, but you don't hear from average types like me.

If I were to talk about the girls I find attractive or dating people would probably accuse of flaunting my sexuality. Straight people talk about that stuff all the time. I actually talk less about my sexuality than the average person. I never tell people what girls I find attractive and I avoid looking at one girl for too long.

I can't imagine what would come from a relationship with 2 women, it would be blasting and incredible unstable.
Well good luck

And what exacly a neurotypical person does here? Don't get it on the wrong way.

I have not much thought about it, but now that you mention your experiences I can see how that could be very frustrating for a non-str8 young woman. When I was a young man, if a girl began to show interest in a dating kind of way, I could act oblivious and it would stop. But guys can sometimes be more persistent in pursuing their interests. I can envision instances wherein about the only way to get them to buzz-off is to play the I'm-Gay card. I can also easily envision that leading to the infamous "you just haven't met the right guy yet" response. I too would be very frustrated if I had to put up with that as much as I bet young women do.

Until recently, non-LGBT individuals haven't needed to do so. Their wedding rings disclosed all anyone needed to know about their orientation. And, those photographs of their spouses and children that they display on their office desks, or carry around in their wallets, purses or cell phones continue the disclosure, don't they?

But, I actually agree with those tell-tale disclosures because they are now being enjoyed by newlywed same-sex couples for the same reasons. I agree with the idea that LGBT individuals could better curb the NC-17 parts of our sexuality in public, but then I am reminded of non-LGBT displays like Hooters (and recently, Tallywackers) restaurants. So, maybe I should amend my agreement to one of we'll become more PG-13 when non-LGBT individuals do, too.

After all, I don't see that LGBT individuals are more insistent than non-LGBT individuals on disclosing their sexualities; just a different way of doing so.

Of course you do. When straight people talk about their partners (and I don't mean intimate details, just little remarks like "my wife and I went to that restaurant last night"), who they find attractive, their frustrations about dating, and how relationships fit into their life goals, they are saying that they are straight. And somehow straight people manage to hear other straight people talk about this vast area of experience without giving it a moment's notice (and certainly without immediately thinking about others' sex lives, unless they have excessive intrusive sexual thoughts, but that's probably not the majority of people...) If you don't care, you don't think anything of it when LGBT+ people talk about the same subjects, right?

Yup, this.

I wish all the world's homophobes would board a rocket pointed right at the sun. It would make this world a much better place. Homosexuality exists, and it's not wrong or unnatural either. People need to learn to accept it.

Funny, but I'd rather they learn & grow as human beings.. and become tolerant of others around them. They don't have to be pro gay, just tolerant - maybe even accepting.

Yes you do. Allllllllllllllllllll the time. It's like straight people who watch hundreds of couples on TV, then when there is one single gay couple they complain "I don't have a problem with them, I just don't think they should be seen in mainstream society."

Ding ding ding, we have another winner here, folks!