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Like you, my mother used to tell me to do so endlessly.



Up until I was about thirty, I've been told to smile, almost entirely by older/middle aged men. Not always strangers, either, there were men I went to church with that would randomly tell me to smile.



Yeah, because the only purpose of women even being on the planet is for men to have something pretty to look at. As Kortie said, "A woman's smile is delightful" to men and men are in charge of everything, even the facial expression of random strangers they encounter out in public :smh:

I never insist that anybody smile. I just enjoy it, that's all.

I enjoy real smiles, not fake smiles.

kraftie, I'm a little on edge right now. I saw an Ontario wanted poster on FB and recognized the people as those across the hall from me. They are wanted for murder. This explains a lot about the weirdness that is going on over there. So I talked to the local sergeant and he found my statement compelling. So they are going to act on it. I am totally freaked out about this.
So my response to your above comment may turn into a rant. I think what I'm hearing you say is that you enjoy it when the people around you are happy. A smile is generally evidence of happiness. So you like to see people smile. If this is right, I have a couple of issues with it:
Often smiles are not accurate evidence of happiness. I don't know about men, but as a woman I can tell you that appearing to be happy was drilled into me as a child. My unhappiness was seen as an insult to everyone.
So enjoying a smile from someone may be a false gratification.
My second issue is that women are too often objectified by society. And women often play into it. Turning themselves out all pretty and gussied up. But this doesn't make it a good thing. I enjoy it when others are happy and genuinely smiling, but I hate to view others as objects for my pleasure.