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BeaArthur
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16 Nov 2018, 2:11 pm

My filters for toxicity in people are few but effective.

1. If they lie to my face, they're done.
2. If drama follows them around, it's a bad sign.
3. If they slander someone else, they will eventually slander me.

I think you can "distance" from someone when your filters are triggered, without needing to remove them from your life. The important thing is to stop extending yourself to someone who may turn out to be a back-stabber. An old fashioned slogan I like is: "Love many, / Trust few, / And always paddle / Your own canoe."


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